One of the biggest complaints that the Orthodox Jewish world has against chabad is that they are too open minded with regards to the roles of women. No other group within ultra-orthodoxy (we can argue all day along about whether…
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I found a picture of a untznius girl in your publication and I’m pissed
Dear Mishpacha, My family and I read your magazine on a daily basis, we get them as hand me downs because the subscription is quite pricey and since we live out of town, the old news is never really that…
Women are starting to come to shul during the week
I always feared this day would come, yet somehow I hoped it wouldn’t happen in my lifetime. We all know that a very small amount of women want to violate the shulchan aruch and hilchos tznius to do a mitzvah…
Are you pro-choice?
SAR is the first Modern Orthodox high school in New York to allow girls to put on tefillin and of course it’s created a huge debate on the internet between people who believe it’s a woman’s right to choose and…
Women risk life and limb to get to the mikvah during the snowstorm
The media, myself included, is constantly deriding the Charedim in Israel for its poor treatment of women. We tend to notice the bad, the bus beat downs, the public protests, riots, the evil modesty signs in Meah Shearim, but we…
The Carpool is the latest breach in tznius
It’s unfortunate that our society has begun the downward spiral in morality, but since the beginning of time, each generation has had it’s own yetzer harahs and these days The Carpool has become a serious nisayon that we have only…
Women should not be allowed to eat in the sukkah
I’ve gotten this picture from several folks and I just don’t understand what the big deal is? I think it’s like anything most of the klal is not used to and would be the same response toward any mitzvah in…
A Heartfelt Kick in the Tuchas
by Chaya Miriam Fried When I got married, I had to leave behind some single friends as well. Some made my joy their joy, and the rest, well…fuck me for finding happiness, right? I should’ve just invited them along on…
Hot Chani Crisis
The internet was abuzz yesterday when someone discovered that an advertisement in the Monsey Connections mistakenly used the derogatory word MILF instead of Milk. The jokes on us, because someone from over at Tops for Tots got in touch with…
Frum women don’t like sex
Pretty much from the time I was 13 I’ve been taught that frum women aren’t horny, they don’t have the same needs, wants, or desperation as men, and this is why we spend so much of our time talking about…
Topless and Tznius
Hippie Tznius by Chaya Miriam Fried With the torches-and-pitchforks rhetoric aimed at Pop Chossid’s article on tznius still hammering in our ears, The Husband and I entered into the anything-goes wonderland of Rainbow Gathering last Friday, several hours before shabbos…
Whatever happened to the shidduch crisis?
They say that the shidduch crisis is only as bad as your personal life, they say that once you get married you begin to realize that the shidduch crisis you faced was only your own crisis. If that’s the case,…
My problem with Women of the Wall is that I agree with both sides
I’ve been hearing about the women of the wall thing for years now, the gut reaction of any frum Jew is to be outraged. These women are just picking a fight, how can they use the holiest place of the…
A Woman at the Wall; A Bystanders Experience of the Rosh Chodesh Sivan events
A Woman at the Wall; A Bystanders Experience of the Rosh Chodesh Sivan events The author who sent this to me wishes to remain anonymous. I was on the way back from Tahoe and Yosemite so I wasn’t even aware…
Dear Heshy: Can I lie to my wife to keep the peace
Dear Posek, I am openly irreligious while my wife is openly religious. It was me that made the break from our shared way of life rather than the other way around. I don’t keep kosher while my wife and children…
RE: I hope you aren’t jerks when I have to say kaddish
I was in shul in Berkeley once and there was a yeshivish visitor who got very unnerved that a woman was saying kaddish, the Rabbi coolly quieted him down and that’s when I learned that women generally don’t say kaddish.…
It’s now untznius to mention a kallah’s name
I’m not sure how they do it in Baltimore (the person who sent this to me informed me that the kollel has a policy against mentioning women’s names), but when I was in yeshiva and someone got engaged, they always…
Blessed are you Lord who has not made me a woman!
The bracha of shelo asani isha is probably one of the only prayers we say on a daily basis that most folks can agree with. Amidst all of those prayers about redemption, incense, fear of the Lord, and sacrifices it’s nice…
Chassidic swimsuit issue
Thank you Asher for sending this over.
So what’s marriage really like…
I’m fairly certain that most folks have this eye opening moment a short time after they get married where they wonder what the hell they got themselves into. I definitely didn’t have one of those moments, but this may be…
If you can’t control your evil urge, don’t blame it on the women!
I’m sick of the Ultra Orthodox community trying to use tznius as a tool for mistreating women, if the men can’t control their evil urges to jump women who want to leave their homes, maybe the men should start staying…
Tznius Alert: Stop exposing your back in public
I love how it was just discovered that bending over may expose your back to the world, I guess it’s good that most frum women don’t have backs which would cause me to lose my seed somewhere in my hand…
The Tznius Crisis
Dear Rabbi X, I would like to personally thank you for bringing the issue of tznius to the public. Since I read your letter, it has opened my eyes to a problem that is surely bigger and more severe than…
Can you please get rid of the untznius dating ads on your site?
The funny thing about advertising is that it’s not only controlled by what sort of content you’re looking at, it’s also controlled by what content you like to look at. It appears that I like half naked Latin women and…
Do you think pornography is counted as cheating?
Pornography is not cheating. If couples were to take part in it openly, then it could enhance and improve their relationship more than other things because the very nature of pornography is that it’s an intimate and secretive thing. To…