People think that once you get married, the shunning stops, that suddenly you’ve finally arrived into the Jewish community as a full fledged member, but you haven’t. In fact, some may say that you’re better off staying single than marrying…
Tag: singles
Older singles are not welcome here
Why are you living in my community? Why haven’t you realized that you’ve exhausted all of your dating options within a 300 mile radius and the only people left to date are out of your hashkafic realm or not halachically…
Is saving your virginity worth it?
There’s an article in the NY Times today about a woman who is a 35 year old virgin, I know plenty of people who are 35 year old virgins, but they are only virgins because they are frum. Is all…
10 Brutally Honest Things I’ve Learned My Year “In-Town”
Hey Heshy, Not particularly sure why I felt the need to write this; I guess the absurdity of PLLBR got me thinking. For context I moved to Brooklyn about a year ago for the annual (REALLY)out-of-town to town shidduchim migration.…
A Heartfelt Kick in the Tuchas
by Chaya Miriam Fried When I got married, I had to leave behind some single friends as well. Some made my joy their joy, and the rest, well…fuck me for finding happiness, right? I should’ve just invited them along on…
Using my expert mooching skills for good
If there’s one thing I’m good at life, it’s getting shabbos meals, break-fast meals, shabbos leftovers, places to sleep in far flung towns and a variety of other freebees given to frum Jews who know how to mooch. I’m not…
Tu’Bav and the Single Guy
Guest post by Yonatan Sredni Panui?” the stocky, sweating, balding guy in the un-tucked white dress shirt and tiny knitted kippah atop his head, asked me over the blaring modern Chassidic dance music. At first I thought he was asking…
Nu, what’s it feel like to be married?
I know a lot of you want to hear all about my married life but to tell the truth, nothing has really changed. The reason for this is that unlike my rants and raves through the years, I fell in…
A Single girls perspective on the shidduch crisis and narrow mindedness
The Shidduch Crisis and the Tyranny of Narrow Mindedness: A Single Girls Perspective (but what the heck can I possibly know, I’m not married…) Guest Post by Deena Sasoon Here is what you need to know about me. I’m female,…
Shit married girls say to singles
I hope to continue to say all sorts of shit to singles, but I sure as hell hope I don’t start telling people they are picky or what segulas they should do to help them find their mate. I found…
The guide to getting busy in the shidduch world
by Anshel M. Busy. “Officially busy”. Meaning too busy to date anyone but a certain someone else. Meaning the death knell to singlehood, whether it be his, hers or yours (IY”H by you, of course). Beginner’s Busy: One bochur I…
Celebrate Tu B’av Upper West Side style
No, everyone isn’t going to dance through the halls of Oheb Tzedek wearing white in the hopes of a tefillin date, besides most of the folks on the upper west side aren’t frum enough to really think of dusting off…
What do you think of this singles weekend ad?
From NYTW: Hi, Are you looking for a great place to go with beautiful accommodations and an awesome atmosphere? Join us as we host the most amazing Shabbat Nachamu ever in the newly renovated (26 Million Dollars) Hanover Marriott in…
The Baal Teshuva’s guide to shidduch dating
As much as we kiruv industry professionals like to think we have prepared the baal teshuva for the real (frum) world we really haven’t. So while the girls know how to to dress according to tznius social norms, the guys…
The myths and realities of “The Shidduch Crisis”
Guest Post by Rabbi Josh Yuter There are few topics in Jewish society which can simultaneously evoke rage, empathy, and unsolicited opinions and advice as Jewish dating. To take just one example, my statistical analysis of dating prospects drew approval…
The best ways to make an older single feel bad
It’s no coincidence that the Blogging world is filled with shidduch blogs, I would say that they are right up there in popularity as the Israeli political blogs and ex-frum heretic style blogs. They are filled with angst, sadness and…
Washington Heights versus the Upper West Side
Whenever you talk to singles contemplating on moving out of their communities to a “singles community” you hear them debate about whether they want to move to the Upper West Side (aka UWS) or Washington Heights (aka The Heights) These…
Living in a singles community doesn’t help you get married
One of the things everyone who I talk to from back east ask is how the singles situation is out here. It’s slim pickings, but I could have told you this before I moved here, I kind of moved here…
40 more challot for the girl with big hips
By Telz Angel “The sisterhood of congregation Zoharei Shechina invite all women to a special Challah baking event this Rosh Chodesh Kiss-Lev. For more information, please contact….” I started to read this in the shul bulletin and sighed. We have…
Frum girl goes into rampage over being told Im Yirzta Hashem By You
Monsey – Police were called last night to a wedding at the Atrium on Route 59 in Monsey after someone called the cops to subdue a frum girl that had gone into some sort of wild rampage. The wedding was…
Do you want to get married enough to settle?
I have wondered if people would rather be without a partner or settle for one that is less than perfect (I know perfection is impossible, but settling for something just because you are at wits end is something entirely different)…
A tribute to shadchanim
Another 4 year old post: In response to all the angry mail I had gotten when I originally posted my rant bashing shadchanim on Craigslist, I wrote them a tribute, this was the second post ever put up on Frum…
The first post ever on Frum Satire: I love talking to shadchanim
This was the first post ever on Frum Satire. It reeks of immaturity, it reeks of arrogance, ignorance and judgmentalism (sic), but it’s such a long and fun post. I am posting it today because the actually anniversary is tomorrow,…
Does this exacerbate the shidduch crisis?
So I’m sitting at someone’s house this last Shabbos and am told that my buddy and I couldn’t eat there the next day because they are having two single girls over. Both our jaws dropped open and we wondered the…
A single trapped in a religion of married people
For some reason any article I post by Rabbi Rabbs elicits insane responses. Our dear friend Rabbs is going to be interviewed by Luke Ford tomorrow via live stream which means you can watch it and send your questions for…