by Anshel M. Busy. “Officially busy”. Meaning too busy to date anyone but a certain someone else. Meaning the death knell to singlehood, whether it be his, hers or yours (IY”H by you, of course). Beginner’s Busy: One bochur I…
Tag: shidduchim
Does paying people extra who make a shidduch really help?
I wonder if these types of campaigns actually help the shidduch situation, or just make single girls feel old at the ripe young age of 23 and make them feel like pieces of meat on consignment. I also found the…
RE: Are there any hot girls reading this?
Dear Heshy, I read your blog regularly and I just wanted to ask you a question concerning the supposedly shallow post about your friends looking to date attractive girls. I’m in my late 20’s and I feel that I’m about…
Post shomer negiah philosophy
Dear Heshy, Let me start off by commending you on creating one of my favorite websites and a place I can go to escape the ever-so-prevalent bullshit in our culture. No more bullshit! Kudos. I am 23, male, single, and…
Shidduch dating is just as shallow as regular dating
Lets face it, the shidduch world is really just as shallow as the goyishe dating world, in fact it may be even more shallow considering that it’s not just about money and looks, but it’s also about religion and that…
Sort of off the derech and looking for a shidduch
Sometime ago I posted about how I would love to set up folks who were off the derech, but looking for someone who is culturally frum. I have received quite a few emails from people wishing for me to set…
The myths and realities of “The Shidduch Crisis”
Guest Post by Rabbi Josh Yuter There are few topics in Jewish society which can simultaneously evoke rage, empathy, and unsolicited opinions and advice as Jewish dating. To take just one example, my statistical analysis of dating prospects drew approval…
This is most insane shidduch resume ever
This was sent to me a while ago, it’s from frumster and as a word doc it was 40 pages long – I have no idea how they allowed something like this on Frumster, I hope it’s joke because it’s…
A girls guide to shadchan speak
A Girl’s Guide to Shadchan-Speak by Chaya Miriam Jurado Why should guys have all the fun? The following may or may not help you with your search. *He’s a bookkeeper = he can’t even change the windshield wipers on his…
Top 10 reasons to go on a singles shabbaton
As a general rule, frum singles hate singles shabbatons, they go because one of their more open minded friends has asked them a billion times to, their parents offered to pay or they feel they have to – but hardly…
The Heights and depths of dating
I love Washington Heights. It’s where the urban grid of Manhattan hits reality, where streets are smacked into cliffs and valleys, with stepped streets, sharp curves, and a mix of Russians, Dominicans, and an endless supply of young MO singles.…
The best ways to make an older single feel bad
It’s no coincidence that the Blogging world is filled with shidduch blogs, I would say that they are right up there in popularity as the Israeli political blogs and ex-frum heretic style blogs. They are filled with angst, sadness and…
I hate the shidduch crisis
The Washington Post article (in which I was linked) has been creating quite a bit of buzz about the so called “shidduch crisis” lately and something just clicked in my head after reading it and some of the commentary. I…
How do I tell a shadchan I want a girl with a huge rack?
This may be one of the funniest shidduch advice questions I have ever received, I find it even funnier because the guy sending it is on the yeshivish side and has probably not had much experience with his subject other…
Are you makpid on looks?
Typically the term Makpid is used in conversations about eating pas yisroel or checking your potato skins for bugs, but those folks who read the yeshiva world news forums are quite frummy and when you’re a real frummy you can…
I made my first gay shidduch
I don’t have that many frum gay friends, I count them all on one hand, so when I thought of the current shidduch I wasn’t working with much. I had mentioned it to both of the people involved some time…
Saw You At Sinai Sucks
Saw You At Sinai has accomplished a few things for me at once, it has made me feel that much better about leaving the east coast, taught me that I’m that much cooler than most of the frum folks out…
The Star-K will no longer pay you to marry older girls
The Star-K’s shidduch incentive program was hailed as brilliant when it first hit the mean streets of Baltimore. You see, Baltimore was suffering from a brain drain of sorts, the guys all left to New York and New Yorkers have…
Shidduch Market goes wild after OMG ban
The shidduch market has been taking a wild ride this week after Rav Ovadia Yosef announced that Jews should never say “oh my God”. The ban sent shidduch markets around the world into a wild downturn as folks in shidduchim…
Frum dating websites create the Mamzer category
Mamzerim have it tough, many people who consider themselves another statistic of the shidduch crisis don;t really have it bad, they are just too picky, but what’s a guy or girl to do if they don’t have the same choice…
The official shidduch resume
When I first heard about shidduch resumes I was kind of shocked, I always figured that shidduchim should be made by people who knew the involved parties personally, but alas with the global shidduch crisis in full effect, shidduchim have…
New York Blizzard proves to be bad for shidduchim
The recent New York Blizzard has made a lot of problems for people, folks couldn’t get to work, couldn’t get out of their cars and couldn’t get to shul, but apparently the worst of the problems may be for people…
So what’s the deal with stacking or scraping?
Do you stack or scrape? I know it sounds weird, but apparently this is one of those random questions that frummies in the shidduch world ask. I have never been asked if I care about this particular way in which…
Brave girl agrees to post her shidduch resume on Frum Satire
I put the call out on Facebook for anyone who wishes to post their real/fake/funny or otherwise serious shidduch profile on my site can do so. I have heard several people tell me that they would like a guy/girl who…
Guys who like big girls
This Dan Savage video I found is his response to a girl who is overweight about finding guys who are attracted to her, it’s basically about how many guys go out with girls their friends will think are hot and…