There is a post on the Yeshiva World News forum about having nothing to talk about with your husband and the comments that follow are quite atrocious. Instead of facing the huge problem of having nothing in common or of…
Tag: shidduchim
The 20 things that frum people are most afraid of
If you’re frum, there’s a pretty good chance that you live in a constant fear of many things. I was consistently taught to be afraid of the goyim, because secretly they want to repeat what the Nazis did to us.…
Older singles are not welcome here
Why are you living in my community? Why haven’t you realized that you’ve exhausted all of your dating options within a 300 mile radius and the only people left to date are out of your hashkafic realm or not halachically…
10 Brutally Honest Things I’ve Learned My Year “In-Town”
Hey Heshy, Not particularly sure why I felt the need to write this; I guess the absurdity of PLLBR got me thinking. For context I moved to Brooklyn about a year ago for the annual (REALLY)out-of-town to town shidduchim migration.…
A Heartfelt Kick in the Tuchas
by Chaya Miriam Fried When I got married, I had to leave behind some single friends as well. Some made my joy their joy, and the rest, well…fuck me for finding happiness, right? I should’ve just invited them along on…
Dear Heshy: The shadchan says I’m an aggressive driver
Dear Heshy, Just last night the shadchan called me to tell me it was over with a girl whom I was head over heels for, it seems that this is the second girl to reject me based on my aggressive…
The Age of the Shidduch Scam
hat tip rachmuna
Should age matter in shidduchim?
The fact that they even needed to make the following video just shows how stupid the shidduch system is, I guess it’s about time that someone showed everyone how dumb they were being, except this video is being too nice.…
Whatever happened to the shidduch crisis?
They say that the shidduch crisis is only as bad as your personal life, they say that once you get married you begin to realize that the shidduch crisis you faced was only your own crisis. If that’s the case,…
How not to do Out of Town Dating
Only once in my life did a girl fly in to meet me, it didn’t go well. She didn’t know anyone in NY and didn’t really have anything to do, besides see me. The biggest mistake of the whole venture…
Shidduchim: It all comes down to the picture
When you strip away all the BS about family, yichus, education, hashkafa, seminary and white tablecloths it all comes down to looks. All we (both men and women) care about is how our potential shidduch date looks. Case in point,…
Saw You On Frum Satire
Every once in a while I get back into shidduchim, I thought of a great idea to set up two people the other day and I went through the motions. This involved pictures, details into their lives an all that…
What’s an overweight shidduch seeker to do?
I’m not exactly sure if there’s a shidduch crisis anymore, maybe they figured it out after all. However, someone recently asked me why there were no shidduch groups or singles events for frum folks struggling with their weight, obesity does…
Jewocity may be the Jewish yellow pages, but I couldn’t find any escort services
I’m not sure that actual yellow pages books exist anymore, but they sure do online. Someone led me to Jewocity when I recently searching for a Jewish escort service. It’s not that I myself need an escort, I’m getting married…
A Single girls perspective on the shidduch crisis and narrow mindedness
The Shidduch Crisis and the Tyranny of Narrow Mindedness: A Single Girls Perspective (but what the heck can I possibly know, I’m not married…) Guest Post by Deena Sasoon Here is what you need to know about me. I’m female,…
How To Fix the Shidduch Crisis: Abort Female Babies
(Brooklyn, NY) An unprecedented call-to-action has been issued from leading Rabbis, community activists and matchmakers: For the last couple decades, the Orthodox communities have been in the grip of what some call “the terrifying Shidduch crisis”; some young women are,…
Overweight shidduch dating site: Why not?
Before you crucify me, I’m actually being serious here. I saw someone on facebook had shared overweightdate.com and wondered when such a site would be created for frum people. It seems like all the dating sites geared towards the Orthodox…
The shidduch crisis comes down to girls being too unattractive
Why is it that the only frum girls that any frum guys ever talk about being attractive are chabad girls? Have you ever wondered about this phenomena? Have you ever wondered why there’s no shidduch crisis in the Lubavitcher world? Could…
Shit married girls say to singles
I hope to continue to say all sorts of shit to singles, but I sure as hell hope I don’t start telling people they are picky or what segulas they should do to help them find their mate. I found…
How do you go about rejecting a shidduch based on looks?
Hey Heshy, A friend and I had a discussion a few weeks ago about dating, weight, saying no and how to do so. We debated specifically about physical attributes and if a guy would tell a girl that her weight…
Biggest BS shidduch story of all time
Many years ago, when I used to shidduch date I remember hearing the same story over and over again to teach me about the strange world of shidduchim. I wondered why no one ever bothered to just call it BS…
Shidduch Business
Guest post by Daniel Mainzer “There’s no business like Shoah business.” That was true for the past 60 years but times they are a changin’. Unemployment is high and desperation even higher, unemployed and over-caffeinated. Shidduch crisis or shidduch business?
Top 10 frummy obsessions
God provided me this idea in the middle of shemona esrei, I was saying chonen h’daas which is a pretty cool blessing for someone who sometimes takes the brain for granted and God put forth the idea to write about…
Ever wonder why there are no modern orthodox forums?
I had a short email conversation with someone the other day about what my hashkafa was, like most, including myself – I have a hard time identifying with any one group of Jews and tend to go to many shuls…
Chesed Week: Helping gays and lesbians keep the Torah
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