I heard recently that one of the members of my shul, who I’ve known for years is a heavily into gardening, a bit of a fascination of my own. Then I learned that another fellow is into modifying trucks and…
Tag: out of town
Long distance shidduch dating sucks
I’m not sure if the term GU is around anymore, but it stood for Geographically Undesirable and it was basically anyone who lived far enough that you had to take a toll bridge out of NY to get to them.…
Older singles are not welcome here
Why are you living in my community? Why haven’t you realized that you’ve exhausted all of your dating options within a 300 mile radius and the only people left to date are out of your hashkafic realm or not halachically…
What time did you end musaf?
It just so happens that one of the things frum folks like most about Yom Kippur and Rosh Hashanah is the davening times competition. However, one of the worst things about living in a small community is that you can’t…
10 Brutally Honest Things I’ve Learned My Year “In-Town”
Hey Heshy, Not particularly sure why I felt the need to write this; I guess the absurdity of PLLBR got me thinking. For context I moved to Brooklyn about a year ago for the annual (REALLY)out-of-town to town shidduchim migration.…
Dear Heshy: Can one actually be frum if they live out of town?
Dear Heshy, I know that you live out of town and consider yourself frum, so I hope that you and your out of town readers don’t take this the wrong way, but I always felt that those folks who moved…
Dear Heshy: The shadchan says I’m an aggressive driver
Dear Heshy, Just last night the shadchan called me to tell me it was over with a girl whom I was head over heels for, it seems that this is the second girl to reject me based on my aggressive…
Did you hear about the young couple moving in?
Friends of ours came to visit for Shavuos and immediately after and during the yuntiff people asked me all sorts of questions to see whether they were moving to our community. Even if you say no, people will still dig…
How not to do Out of Town Dating
Only once in my life did a girl fly in to meet me, it didn’t go well. She didn’t know anyone in NY and didn’t really have anything to do, besides see me. The biggest mistake of the whole venture…
Maybe I’m just a self embarrassed Jew!
I’m not sure why, but whenever I’m in New York or another large orthodox community I suddenly like to hide my Jewishness. Normally, I wear my yarmulke and tzitzis everywhere, but the second you put me in a place where…
You know you’re from out of town if…
In the frum world, Out of Town or OOT for short is generally considered anyone who lives outside of the New York metro area. Not only is it a term to mark geographic location, it is generally used in the…
Why frum New Yorkers will never move out of town
I had a nice long chat with an old friend the other day about moving out of New York. He and his wife have spent the last 3 years looking for the perfect community to call home. They visited Dallas,…
10 most famous frum streets
I am sure we could debate for hours as to what street is most famous in the frum world, but when it comes down to it there aren’t that many. I think my list will probably consist of less than…
There’s nothing do around here
I remember having these arguments in yeshiva about why Brooklyn wasn’t really the best place in the world, as you can imagine people from Brooklyn have a lot of pride and I would constantly have to stand up for the…
Maybe I’m losing my edge in observing frum folks
I love when guests come to shul in northern California because I get to observe them on my home turf, it’s like having tropical animals lost in the north pole, especially if they happen to wind up in San Jose.…
What does out of town mean to you?
I never started hearing the term “out of town” until I started going to yeshiva, people referred to my yeshiva as out of town and I always wondered if they realized that we were in the middle of a metropolitan…
What will the next frum community crisis be?
First we had the kids at risk crisis, then the bugs in the water crisis, then there were bugs in everything healthy, green and leafy crisis, the Indian hair sheitle crisis, the shidduch crisis, the visiting day crisis, the yeshiva…
OU holds dying communities fair
For the third year in a row, the OU is holding a dying communities fair to lure poor New Yorkers to the rust belt in search of a better life, cheaper tuition and really low property values. For many people,…
What’s the deal with Staten Island?
Staten Island is one of those places you just don’t go. My brother once took the ferry there and I do recall going with my father to check out a potential job in some projects with a lot of cockroaches…
Out of town dating sucks
So I decided mentally that I would begin trying to meet some girls again, I have gone out one date since my girlfriend and I broke up in February. But due to the super active lifestyle I have been leading in…
Awkward dates could be fixed if you skype beforehand
We talked on the phone and chat for several months before she decided to fly in to meet me. I had seen her picture and didn’t really like what I saw, but she was so cool that it didn’t really…
Rules for New Yorkers visiting Miami for pesach
By Zalmy Fny Silver I am not a fan of writing words in caps – but I didn’t feel like editing the whole thing… 1- You CAN, I repeat, CAN make a FREAKING RIGHT TURN ON RED!! The only place…
Is LA considered “out of town”?
My newly created friend from LA a Rabbi comedian by the name of Rabbs, is convinced that Jews in Los Angeles deserve out of town status. After a week spent in LA I didn’t need much convincing. The Jews of…
I was pretty impressed with the Los Angeles Jews
They say it’s not good to go anywhere with expectations because you will undoubtedly be let down. I came Los Angeles this week with specific expectations. I expected to come away with a firm belief that I could mark LA…
Out of town restaurant politics
I have lived and stayed in enough Jewish communities to understand that many places don’t have a kosher restaurant simply because of community politics. Community politics can get in the way of many things, but restaurants are usually a huge…