There is a post on the Yeshiva World News forum about having nothing to talk about with your husband and the comments that follow are quite atrocious. Instead of facing the huge problem of having nothing in common or of…
Tag: marriage
Marriage will break you
There is no way that I would voluntarily given my wife the better piece of chicken when we were newlyweds. I would have kept it for myself, under the guise of “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her”. It’s not…
Should we beat up men who refuse to give their wife a get?
I guess it’s the question of the week and it seems that pretty much everyone in the frum community supports such practice, I know I do, I just think it’s a shame they got caught by the FBI. There’s been…
Divorce from a Jewish perspective
The writer of this letter asked me to his identity anonymous As a Man floating in the purgatory between married and single, I am torn. I am torn between many things. Between forgiveness and judgment, between sacrifice and greed but…
Dear Heshy: Can I lie to my wife to keep the peace
Dear Posek, I am openly irreligious while my wife is openly religious. It was me that made the break from our shared way of life rather than the other way around. I don’t keep kosher while my wife and children…
Marriage will change you
Besides for blogging a whole lot less, most folks probably wouldn’t be able to tell how I’ve changed since being married. I still mountain bike almost every day, spend a whole bunch of time in the woods and cook full…
What I thought of mikvah night before I got married
I feel like every time I spoke or joked about mikvah night before I got married, all the folks who had experienced this night were laughing at me. Basically mikvah night is a pain in the ass… Find out more…
Frum marriage comic strip
My wife has been getting into this comic strip thing on Facebook and she’s decided that we should be the subject of the strip. Find out more on 4torah.com
So what’s marriage really like…
I’m fairly certain that most folks have this eye opening moment a short time after they get married where they wonder what the hell they got themselves into. I definitely didn’t have one of those moments, but this may be…
What’s the deal with over usage of the term desperate in shidduchim?
I hear the term “desperate to get married” all the time, what gives? I haven’t met too many folks who are really that desperate, this would mean that those peeps would be marrying the first person that came along and…
Nu, what’s it feel like to be married?
I know a lot of you want to hear all about my married life but to tell the truth, nothing has really changed. The reason for this is that unlike my rants and raves through the years, I fell in…
Do you think pornography is counted as cheating?
Pornography is not cheating. If couples were to take part in it openly, then it could enhance and improve their relationship more than other things because the very nature of pornography is that it’s an intimate and secretive thing. To…
This may be my last post as a single man…
In preparation for my wedding this coming Sunday, I spent the last 3 days in the woods. A 26 mile solo backpack in the Ypsemiote high country, followed by some good hitchhiking to get back to my car and a…
The shidduch crisis comes down to girls being too unattractive
Why is it that the only frum girls that any frum guys ever talk about being attractive are chabad girls? Have you ever wondered about this phenomena? Have you ever wondered why there’s no shidduch crisis in the Lubavitcher world? Could…
Weddings are about the simcha, not the money!
The natural progression of wedding planning dictates that somewhere along the way you should register with some big box store to take the fun out of gift giving. The first time I heard about wedding registries, I really didn’t believe…
Now that I’m engaged, I’ve naturally begun to think about frum wife swapping
Now that I’m engaged I’ve started to think about life after marriage and naturally my thoughts have wandered to that seldom spoken about subject of wife swapping in the frum community. I am marrying a chabad girl after all and…
Yes the rumors are true – I coerced someone into marrying me
This past Thursday night I coerced a hot chabad girl (she’s too tznius to be a Hot Chani) to marry me, I cornered her in a shul and gave her a nice necklace. Did you know that chabadniks don’t do…
My friend needs your advice: He really doesn’t want to get divorced!
I got a call from an old friend the other day and he started it off by asking me in a very distressed voice if I knew anyone who had been divorced twice and was under 30. To make him…
OU sponsors Long Island wife swapping event
Sisterhood of Great Neck Synagogue and the Orthodox Union cordially invite you to: A Couples Night Out Intimacy in Marriage …Maintaining that Romantic Spark Over Time and trying new things with other people. Guest Speaker: Rachel Pill, LCSW Free Admission…
Same Sects Marriage
Someone sent this to me – they found it on Shadchan-Shadchan, but I’ve seen it before and one of the commen ts backs me up on that. NEW YORK – In an unusual display of unity, leaders of five Chasidic…
Unconsummated Marriage
I found this woman’s blog a few weeks ago and it makes me feel pretty sad, but I understand her need to let people know they aren’t alone in the issue and her need to talk about her hurt and…
The Royal Wedding?: From a frum girls’ perspective
I know it’s a bit late, but if Osama wasn’t killed the other day a lot of people would still be talking about it. I myself had no idea about this whole Royal Wedding affair until the Rabbi spoke about…
10 perks of being in an arranged marriage
I always find it super cool when I realize that chassidim are reading my blog, I know they are because it’s quite rare for me to walk around Williamsburg or New Square without being recognized, but I don’t think I…
101 reasons why I want to get married
So I found this really super lame post called 101 reasons to get married, so lame was it (I would love to articulate the lameness of it a bit more – but I don’t want to make the author of…
Tachlis with benefits
I’m not gonna lie, I had a friend with benefits situation once, we would hang out, but everything ultimately led to the back seat of my 92 Camry on some dead end street somewhere where we would share words of…