I’m sick of all the negativity that seems to be going on in the frum community these days. Jews hating other Jews because they don’t keep the same standards. Jews hating other Jews because they have different ways of practicing…
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Dear Heshy: Why do you hate Charedim so much?
Dear Heshy, As a long time reader, I think I know you pretty well and I’ve been wondering why you hate Charedim so much. It seems that almost every post on this blog is aimed at tearing down the Torah…
This Rabbi holds that murder cases should be handled by Gedolim!!!
As if it weren’t enough that Yisroel Belsky “handled” the case of of molestor Yosef Kolko by continuing to stand by him after he confessed to sexually abusing a little boy, Rabbi Richard Handler has come out in the Jewish…
What are the most important issues facing Orthodoxy?
As a sociologist of the frum community, I’m on a constant quest to figure our strange little community out. In the process of this, I’ve ruffled a few feathers, stirred a few pots, and pissed off some of those folks…
The Catch 22 of Tznius
Tznius is one big Catch 22, if you dress tzniusly people will judge you by it and if you don’t dress tzniusly – people will judge you by it as well. While I like my women to be covered from…
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The great kugel debate: Is it cake or kugel?
Since food is one of the most important aspects of the frum community, it’s no wonder that the great kugel vs. cake debate is alive and well in many parts of the frum community. In the mid 90’s, the latest…
Nechemya Weberman: Rapist or Victim?
I’ve been back to blogging for a week and my new goal of avoiding Jewish websites, blogs and news outlets almost worked.The Weberman trial, though, is too hard to ignore. If it was a white collar fraud case I would…
The Young Marrieds are destroying the frum community
I’m not sure that I thought of the complications that surround the young couple trying to find other couples to hang out with. Now before I delve into another inside look at my oh so interesting married life, I should…
The new era of Tzedakah…$50,000 raffles
When I was a kid you didn’t get much gashmius in return for your tzedakah, you got the good feeling every kid gets when their parent gives them mitzvah money for the pushka box, but you didn’t get prizes or…
The latest trend in frum divorces
I think the title may be misleading so let me clarify, the latest trend in my friends who are getting divorce and it’s not the trend of late. Most of my friends who have gotten divorced, have done so due…
Thousands of Charedim will gather at Citi Field to discuss the dangers of the internet
If the gedolim had only known that their attempts at taming the beast known as the internet would have been futile, I’m sure they may have gone about it a different way. For years they tried to ban, filter and…
A Single girls perspective on the shidduch crisis and narrow mindedness
The Shidduch Crisis and the Tyranny of Narrow Mindedness: A Single Girls Perspective (but what the heck can I possibly know, I’m not married…) Guest Post by Deena Sasoon Here is what you need to know about me. I’m female,…
Ignorance is Bliss
Sometimes I wish I could go back to my high school days, the days before existential crisis wracked my mind, the days when issues of faith and belief were no brainers. Those days before I started reading philosophy and anything…
Premarital Sex Crisis: Why the YU Beacon article is such a big deal
I remember way back in the mid 90’s when the frum community started to awaken to the fact that high school aged kids were leaving the path in droves. At first everyone denied it was happening, but slowly parents admitted…
I won’t eat at your house, you shaygetz!
Dear Telz Angel, I live in a small community and I need your help. My wife and I are BTs but have not flipped out. We’re pretty modern. We both work for a living. I wear my kippa sruga at…
Guide to the different crises of the frum community
I am sure that there have been many a crisis throughout the history of Jewish people, like the Golden Calf crisis and the Girls of Moab crisis, but in my lifetime alone I remember a number of crisis taking place…
The myths and realities of “The Shidduch Crisis”
Guest Post by Rabbi Josh Yuter There are few topics in Jewish society which can simultaneously evoke rage, empathy, and unsolicited opinions and advice as Jewish dating. To take just one example, my statistical analysis of dating prospects drew approval…
I hate the shidduch crisis
The Washington Post article (in which I was linked) has been creating quite a bit of buzz about the so called “shidduch crisis” lately and something just clicked in my head after reading it and some of the commentary. I…
Do you know what a Monsey House is?
I decided to take a ride through the pre-fab home neighborhood right near my house today, I was on the tail end of a morning ride around the hood and the neighbors had always intrigued me and I was hoping…
Money doesn’t buy happiness and marriage doesn’t make your problems go away
My friend has a problem, he hates his job, he hates his single life and he hates New York – when I tell him to leave his job and leave New York, he says that he has a steady paycheck…
Kosher Racism
I asked the author of a new blog called Meshuga Parents if I could post the following piece that was up on the blog. Yesterday, my tichel clad wife took our son to the park. Even though it was about…
Frum man contemplates suicide over finances
Originally Published on Matzav “Frum Man Jumps to His Death Over Finances.” That headline isn’t a real one – yet. But it may be soon. I am at the verge of either losing my mind or giving up my life…
Forget the shidduch crisis, what about the ridiculously short marriage crisis?
Not sure what’s going on but in the last year I have known over half a dozen people my age that have gotten divorced and a majority of them were married less than a year. I wouldn’t call it a…
Charedim refer to homosexuals as an abomination, but being dishonest in business is an abomination too
By Honestly Frum The torah warns us that there are 3 things that are so reprehensible that the only way we can refer to them is as a Toeiva, an abomination. The first and the one that gets referred to…