Now that I’m engaged, I’ve naturally begun to think about frum wife swapping

Now that I’m engaged I’ve started to think about life after marriage and naturally my thoughts have wandered to that seldom spoken about subject of wife swapping in the frum community. I am marrying a chabad girl after all and everyone knows that the chabad community provides the best wife swapping out of any frum sect. Those chabad women remain hot even after multiple children and they live in places where there aren’t many other frum people around, so chances are they may not have any other folks who know the halachos of kosher wife swapping. 

Of course, the more I thought about it the more I realized that it’s not as easy as it sounds. I figured it would go down at a shabbos meal or something. You know, two couples sitting there and one says “I read this shocking article on the I’m a Mother forum about wife swapping in the frum community” wink-wink and sure enough everyone is going home for a little shabbos afternoon kids are napping double mitzvah time.

It doesn’t work like that my mind retorted, you forgot about one very important key factor in this frum wife swapping thing and that is the need to find two women who are not Niddah’s. Not only do you have to worry about the Niddah thing, but finding 2 frum couples who are both attracted to each other enough to pull some covert aishes ish action is pretty hard to find. Take a look at the shidduch crisis, now multiple that by 10 – one couple told me that it’s way harder to split the sea than find 2 couples to agree to frum wife swapping on shabbos afternoon.

The more I thought about it and the more I realized that I wouldn’t swap my wife for any other woman out there anyway…ohhhh save!

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