She’s four years older than me

Being a BT with an immigrant background, I know that I’m better off dating someone from my own community than an “American.” But I keep an open mind, and whether I go for the ger, or go for the gerusha, to me a Jew is a Jew. So imagine my surprise when a friend recommended me a match to a girl with an excellent academic, professional, and religious background. And physically attractive too. But there was one catch (isn’t there always a catch?) She is four years older than me.

This choice made me wonder, how old is too old? For women, it is normal to marry a man four years older. But for a man, it is almost unheard of. That age gap may seem small when you’re in your twenties, but at your 36, she will be 40. At your 56, she will be 60. Those are some big decade marks, and the age difference will show. Will I still love her when such age pairs come up? Is it realistic for me do marry a woman 4 years my senior?

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