Just because you look at Jewish porn doesn’t mean your a sex addict

In continuation of yesterdays post about married folks organizing their lives around niddah calendars…

I love reading the Jewish Press mostly for the chronicles of crisis section in which right wing therapists talk about everything in crisis or sickness mode. Homosexuality is called SSA (same sex attraction) as if it were a disease and a wife catching a husband looking at porn is called sexual addiction and they make it seem like all hell is going to break loose. I remember this one particularly disturbing piece about a wife who caught her husband looking at porn and she made it sound like he was caught wearing a suicide belt on his way to blow up a mall, it was really ridiculous.

The simple fact of the matter is that almost every guy looks at porn, including orthodox Jews, that’s just life, you can all deny it, shoot as a public personality I am going to deny ever looking at porn, selling it during yeshiva or paying beis medrish guys to buy it for me as long as they could rip out several pages, but to vilify porn watchers as if they are some diseased sex addicts is overdoing it just a bit.

I couldn’t believe how many emails I got from people thinking I held the key to frum porn after I published a simple picture with the title of the post being “what is a hot chani?” It was ridiculous and at first I would mess with these people and then I would just let them know the bad news – kind of like telling a kid that santa doesn’t exist.

I recently hanging out somewhere and I overheard a newlywed talking about how his wife hates when he looks at porn, to an older guy who has been married seven years tell him that he has to hide it from his wife – the whole conversation was pretty disturbing like that. Both of the guys seemed kind of disappointed in their marriages even though the older guy said he was content – the classic question would be – if he was content, why the need for porn? If it is even a need, maybe its just one of those pastimes men cant be expected to give up when they enter into a marriage. I really hope that’s not how it goes for me, what’s the point of porn when you have the real thing – even if its only for 32 weeks out of the month?

My theory is that God created the porn kings all of whom are Jewish so that they could profit off of an increasingly frum society that keeps the laws of niddah – you see before people were really religious with mikvah there really wasn’t as big a need, but now the move to the right causes more men to stray down the path of porn. I know what your thinking WTF???

I myself can see a push in frum society for someone to come out with Jewish porn, I used to write about this all the time, because when I first started blogging I couldn’t believe people were searching for frum sex or Jewish porn, but now the searching is increased and more desperate. Its like they cant understand that no porn producer has seen Chassidim having sex on screen as profitable and so it doesn’t exist, yet countless times per day my blog comes up in searches and people click in the hopes they come across the holy grail of Jewish porn which I can only assume means that it features someone that is fully tznius talking dirty in Aramaic.

Please note that I think Jewish porn is disgusting and degrading to women and it does not belong in a healthy marriage, but what do I know, I’m single…