Are you Shomer but with it?

I know I posted this and deleted it last week, it was a mistake to delete it, it turned out.

I know multiple people who are in relationships in which shomer negia is being kept, it sucks, but the payoff is great. In most of these relationships one or both parties has at some point been sexually involved with someone of the opposite sex – thereby making them shomer but with it.

This actually happened to me in a shomer relationship I had with someone, the girl asked out right if I was “experienced” and I grudgingly said yes – I always feel like the innocent girls who haven’t done anything will be scared away by guys who weren’t always shomer negiah, I was wrong, she asked me to show her the ropes – well maybe in my imagination she did.

I am shomer but with it. Are you?

Other shomer negiah posts:

Shomer negiah loopholes

Do you keep fictional shomer negiah?

What type of negiah do you keep?