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Maybe I’m just a self embarrassed Jew!

I’m not sure why, but whenever I’m in New York or another large orthodox community I suddenly like to hide my Jewishness. Normally, I wear my yarmulke and tzitzis everywhere, but the second you put me in a place where Jews are everywhere I want nothing to do with them. think it has something to do with being embarrassed by my own kind. In my neck of the woods no one knows from Jews, my wife always says that when we’re walking to shul on shabbos that everyone must think we are Jehovah’s Witnesses.

Most folks I know are somewhat embarrassed to be Jewish outside of their own communities. I’m one of those whose mildly against people for not wearing their yarmulkes to work (in the case where they go bareheaded), I say mildly because I used to remove my yarmulke when I went to buy porn and so I kind of understand the situation. My theory is that if you have to remove the signs of your Jewishness, it’s kind of like you lack belief that God’s going to have your back in some way. I also find it strange when you encounter your supposedly frum shul going buddy during the week without any signs of Jewishness, it just strikes a strange cord with me, yet I’m the one that doesn’t want to look Jewish around all those damned Jews.

I do admit that when I live on the East Coast I was a bit embarrassed to be associated with the Orthodox community, you can read my writing from the era, it was downright angry. Now, being far removed from regular frumkeit (plenty of frum Jews in the Bay Area, but hardly any who would not be labeled as out of town Harry’s) has made me happy in my Orthodox Jewish lot, of course I rarely see Jews outside of the regular places, but I do get comments every once in a while – which are usually friendly and inspiring for some reason.

Definitely not self hating, but slightly self embarrassed for sure.

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  • Anonymous January 2, 2013, 1:25 PM

    “I say mildly because I used to remove my yarmulke when I went to buy porn”


    • A. Nuran January 3, 2013, 12:48 PM

      Wait. People buy porn?

  • this blog changed and it sucks January 2, 2013, 1:33 PM

    dude SF is beyond harry. Generally a Harry is somebody who tries to be extra frum but doesn’t have the yeshivish swag

    • Heshy Fried January 2, 2013, 2:28 PM

      Yes but where I live in San Jose is super harry, palo alto as well

  • Dan January 2, 2013, 4:38 PM

    oh my, check out the stairmaster ad. lol
    unabashed prn.

    • The Mrs. January 2, 2013, 6:44 PM

      Only you get the Stairmaster ad. I get lamps…and Latinas I’d [Allegedly] Like To Meet.

    • Tuvia January 2, 2013, 6:59 PM

      You do realize that those ads are served via Google’s Adsense network, right? Adsense delivers ads that are specifically targeted to what you have been searching for a lot. So in my case I’m see ads for small business insurance by Hiscox and ads for Google Nexus 7 tablet (both something I’ve been searching on)… in your case it is just delivering ads based upon what you’ve been searching for: prn.

      *rolls eyes*

      • Dan January 2, 2013, 7:51 PM

        Dude, it’s a stairmaster ad. It’s for an exercise machine.

      • bratschegirl January 2, 2013, 9:31 PM

        Not seeing any ads… guess that ad-block extension really works!

  • Yosef H January 2, 2013, 6:46 PM

    Haha in Boca Raton its not embarrassing to reveal my Brooklyn roots. As 40% of the population is from there.

  • Huh January 2, 2013, 11:18 PM

    You say definitely not self hating but

    “Find more self hating Jews on”

  • CM January 3, 2013, 4:20 AM

    I thought people stopped buying porn from physical stores many years ago.

  • Toldos Aron January 3, 2013, 7:45 AM

    i feel so sorry for this bucher in the picture, i have been there i know what it means, all he hears is “dont do this or that”‘ all he reads is bans on anything & everything, girls/woman is simply a forbbiden object in his small world. no wonder they get arousel from just staring at snoods.

    • non January 3, 2013, 1:53 PM

      *awkward silence*

      • Devin April 19, 2013, 6:46 AM


  • Sandy January 4, 2013, 4:32 AM

    What is Harry?

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