I don’t know anyone who’s happy and off the derech. If they were so happy, why would they keep having to tell us religious Jews how silly we are, couldn’t they just be happy with their decision and leave us alone. Yet day in and day out they visit this site and others and feel the need to argue relentlessly for the virtues of secularism. They tend to have no values and morals and feel the need to drag us down to their level. You left, that’s great, leave us alone. That’s all I really want to say them when they have these dumb arguments about how terrible religion is.
It seems that they never focus on the good, like the fact that Chassidim and other ultra orthodox groups do lots of charity for everyone in their own communities. In fact Chassidim are responsible for so many charity groups that non-religious people would never do because they aren’t worried about charity because they have no morals. Tomche shabbos doesn’t exist in communities that don’t keep shabbos. Sheitle gemachs are not needed in places where married women choose to flaunt their uncovered hair that is supposed to be for their husbands alone. The off the derech community only offers charity in terms of free education and dating advice as long as you distance yourself from those terrible religious Jews. Have they forgotten about shidduch vision? I bet you they don’t offer free skype dating supervised by baal habbatishe guys standing next to the cases of silver licht.
They have to miserable, otherwise they wouldn’t have left such a beautiful and logical religion right? Something must have went wrong in their lives, in many ways they are like converts and baalei teshuva, only they are less moral and less logical and succumbed to their yetzer harah’s. They could learn a few things from BT’s and converts. Maybe they should attend an Aish Discovery seminar before leaving the derech, they could see the beauty and intricacies of the world that only a master creator could have thought of. They could learn that science and religion coexist only when it works to the Kiruv Artists advantage, but at least it’s not fully shunned like in their own communities.
It’s high time that those considering leaving the path could switch communities and leave their path for another mehalich. Did you know that some communities are so open that they still consider you frum is you touch a member of the opposite sex, own a television, hire someone to push your kid to shul and wear clothing doesn’t jive with 19th century Poland? I know it seems far fetched, but I think that if you can’t see the beauty and ruchniyus of the Chassidish community you could try something a bit more modernishe and work your way back. There’s no point in just wasting everything for a little premarital sex, bacon and beach time on shabbos. Besides, in some communities you can find veal bacon, sit at the beach on shabbos and have premarital sex and still be considered frum. It’s a good thing that the three things that determine your frum status (shabbos, kashrus and niddah) all have amazing loopholes.