Usually the girl looks pretty hot at her wedding, I’ve noticed that no matter how ugly she is in real life, on her wedding day she magically looks gorgeous – radiant may be the right word, the only problem is the makeup, especially the trend in frum circles to go for the Gothic eye shadow.
Now I am a bit biased, I don’t like makeup, I hate the concept of makeup, the name of makeup seems fake in itself and almost all of the girls I have dated seriously felt exactly the same way – we makeup haters roll together. The thing is, at weddings, they load on too much makeup. I don’t think I have ever been to a wedding where the girl didn’t wear makeup, but I also have never been to a wedding where the makeup was tasteful.
Just because I don’t like makeup, doesn’t mean the stuff can’t be tasteful, a lot of girls will say that I cannot they are wearing it – which is great, then what the F is the point in hiding your natural beauty marks or whatever you needed makeup for? The problem is when makeup is distasteful and this is often the case at weddings.
I don’t know how it goes at non-religious weddings, but at frum weddings the makeup trend seems to be heavy on the eye shadow, so every girl I have ever seen get married, looks like she’s going gothic for her wedding day. Out of all the makeup nastiness, my biggest hatred is working on the eyes and the lipstick, you want to throw on some blush or cover up whatever – but don’t touch the eyes – you should be proud of what God gave you, not have to cover it up and make it look like crap.
Now I wonder if any guy was ever standing at the chupah and repulsed by what the makeup artist did to his lovely bride. Has any guy demanded that she take off the gothic eye shadow? Or do they just want to get it over with so they can eat some sponge cake in the yichud room and make out all that bright lip gloss away.
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For stuff like weddings you need the makeup so your pictures come out better. I agree there are some people who go overboard I guess, but you do need it.
heavy makeup at weddings is for the pictures – you don’t want to look shiny for the rest of your life – Although that doesn’t explain the eye shadow.
My guess is, it’s the khallahs one night to shine – so shes gonna go all out with the Oscar worthy hair and makeup. Her chosson will see her plain jane for the rest of their lives anyway.
As for post yichud room – there is usually a makeup girl on hand for touchups after shes been touched up.
Note to guys out there getting married – make sure she doesnt smear lipstick on ur shirt collar. That would be embarrassing for pictures.
Funny. My wife didn’t use any makeup. The pictures came out fine.
Years back Oil of Olay had a Beauty Secrets Contest.
Her tip was “Have at least one Chinese grandparent and never use cosmetics.”
I can only attribute her failure to win to the judges being bribed.
Oh, you’ve posted that before. You do realize no make up company is going to promote not wearing make up. I refer to it as, “crap on your face.”
I know. It was a joke.
Nuran is a man?????
Last time I looked.
He’s a man, baby!
//13 year old joke
OMG ROFLMAO!!!! ;^D
Nuran is a man. I know his real name and I’ve seen his real picture. heheheh
It really depends on how the makeup is applied. When I lived in the South, it seemed the southern women had refined the art of applying makeup and enhancing their natural beauty. In California, a greater number women don’t wear makeup and accordingly, many of them have this dry cracked skin leather look to their faces. When they are young, this is fine and a nice tanned look gives them this healthy, if not earthy, radiant look. However, soon enough many of them seem to develop this cracked leather appearance to their skin for lack of makeup or sunscreen. For the long run, I prefer a woman who is naturally beautiful but knows how to use makeup to enhance your natural appearance rather than cover it up.
I find it utterly hilarious to see beautiful Frum women wearing wigs and perfect makeup while their husbands have scraggly beards and no style in regards to clothing other than the typical black hats and suits.
You are so right! It amazes me how many frum pretty women are with totally yucky men!
In such marriages, is the counterpart to the Hot Chanie the Shlumpy Shloimie?
more like sugar daddy.
Where is this mysterious “sugar daddy” that people often speak of…?
He’s married and cheating on his pregnant wife.
Dear Michal, I hope that one day you will truly believe that Hashem has a plan for you life. Why do I write this? Because I have seen your bitter comments on this and other websites too many times.
Hit the nail on the head there!
1. I agree 100% re: naturally beautiful and using makeup to enhance natural appearance
2. 100% right on re: frum women with wigs n perfect makeup and husbands who don’t seem to think its necessary to groom themselves at all…”scraggly beards and no style in regards to clothing”
This post was just for me because I am actually a certified makeup artist. And I have to agree- many makeup artists go overboard with the eye makeup. The face makeup is tricky because you have to deal with sweat and other conditions so sometimes it has to be a bit thick. But it isn’t neccessary to make the eyes look like a witch or girl at the corner, if you know what i mean. At makeup school I saw many students who thought makeup should translate as dark eyes and red lips, and unfortunately teachers don’t work hard enough to stop this. This is where it all stems from. But I think saying all frum weddings is sort of a silly generalization. This is more of a cultural thing and what sort of clan you roll with. end of story. You have to go to more weddings before you judge really.
What the camera sees is not what the eye sees, so yes, it will make demands that look a little odd to us. Cosmetics which look good on film and to the human audience are tricky. I’m very happy that there are specialists like you to put it together.
Sivan, can you Email my yahoo Email of the same name? I need you for something I’m working on.
Also, I’m real tired of men who say women shouldn’t wear makeup or do their hair or nails, etc. Because don’t you think it’s ironic that the girls they give a double take on are the ones who actually take care of their looks? It’s kind of hypocritical. Guys just dont want to sit and wait as the girl gets ready to go out. They dont need a new girlfriend, they just need to learn patience!
There are many ways a woman can take care of her looks and many different looks which require different sorts of care. Makeup provides a number of options. So do clothes. So do manicures, false nails, topiary hair and all the rest. A woman who is not going for a look which requires these things can be just as attractive if she aims at something different.
Of course, this is ignoring the big unspoken principle of makeup. Most of it is designed to simulate s*xual arousal. Lipstick, blush, rouge, all the different colors and textures of spackle are all designed to make the woman look like she’s hot to trot. Then she douses herself with the reproductive attraction chemicals of plants, civet cats and Lord knows what else.
Actually being interested in the guy and emotionally honest enough to show it is the reality of which all that other stuff is the counterfeit.
A. Nuran- Hilarious comment, especially
“topiary hair”, “spackle” and “reproductive attraction chemicals of plants, civet cats…”
Thanks!
Thanks. Just don’t think too carefully about plants using bees to have nooky.
I don’t like the “take care of thier looks” part. I INTENTIONALLY don’t wear fake up to take care of my looks. It ruins your skin so I save it for special occasions. Besides fake up, I’ve notice a lot of bare skin gets guys looking and Ortho guys are no exception.
Of course it gets us looking. What do you think we are? Gay?
For my wedding, I wanted to go light. It was the makeup artist who applied the stuff with a trowel. However, I know from years of school plays that without heavy makeup, the bright lights that photographers use will make a person without heavy makeup look like a corpse.
You can go overboard, even with the bright lights. I was putting on my own make up for the stage long before my age was in the double digits and the other girls mothers made them look like trollips, even under the stage lights. My mother taught me the first couple years of dance recitals and she taught me too much, not enough and about right.
I think bride’s hair is worse. You see so many girls with retarded looking hairstyels that are supposed to look fancy or whatever but look ridiculous. What a shame. I loved my makeup at my wedding. Natrual and nice. DH also likes me without makeup but a little adds to my prettiness
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I agree-WTF is the deal with poofy hair these days on some of these flatbush and 5 towns hoochies?… Can someone please explain?
not sure how many weddings you have actually been to but i have never seen a gothic looking frum bride. the brides tend to go for a natural classy look. and i also love how makeup haters think the makeup is just covering beauty marks. waht about bad acne and scarring? is it wrong to cover that too? is a girl supposed to say thats how Hashem wanted me, take me as i am? because i doubt many guys would.
They’re just being fashionable.
Dear heshy.
You are a douchebag.
Get laid.
…And GFY.
Douchebag.
When you are spending $4,000 and up just for photos — when half the marriages end in divorce anyway — you have to look your best!
Part of the problem is that there’s some really goofy trends with eye make up right now. Look on the subway and see the girls in bright purple eyeshadow. Too much mascara and smoky eyes are also hot. Girls like that look fake. That’s what some guys want. Of course then they complain that every girl they date ends up being shallow.
Sivan, or how about the guys who complain that they don’t want to pay for dates but they want you to wear heels and make up. Time is money and I’m spending that kind of time on a stranger he better pony up the cash and take me somewhere other than Starbucks.
Lastly, guys who runs after girls with crap on their face are in for a big treat if they marry her cuz that crap ages your skin. Genes aren’t the only reason why I can pass for half my age.
wow, michaltastik- I somehow missed your replies. Appreciate your thoughts! Curious as to what you had mentioned you were working on, even though it was 2010. I’ll try contacting your email if you dont recieve this.
-Sivan.
Panda bears – that’s the technical name for girls with too much eye shadow on. The “Goth” trend will eventually disappear, panda bears are timeless.
As to makeup for photos: what’s up with the photos? Do married people really think it’s so important to have photos of your wedding? It seems silly to do things (f.ex. makeup) for the photos, rather than taking the more zen approach “be here and now”. I’ve been to weddings where the special lights (for the video/photos) were so bright that everyone squinted.
The biggest beauty tip: wear sunscreen! The sun ages skin and one should protect it. I always get complements on my skin when I wear sunscreen with transparent zinc oxide. Go figure.
for people of faith there sure is a lot of cussing on this site, and a lot of being mean…
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