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Shomer negiah tefillin date

This is a work of fiction

I met the girl on frumster and after several conversations we agreed to meet. This was going to be another run of the mill date. I would pick her up in the Heights and we would try and check each other out in the dark car while making awkward conversation about driving a stick shift in the city and shidduch dating in general. I happened to have my tefillin on the dashboard; when she got back in the car,  she happened  to brush my hand and shoulders  by accident several times, and began to comment  about tefillin dates.

Her roommates happened to be out of town, but she said that if we went through with this tefilin date thing, we couldn’t go on any more dates because she doesn’t go out with guys who are not shomer negiah. When confronted with this contradiction, she stated that she would hook up or fool around with any guy she felt worthy but that automatically made them less frum than what she was looking for. I rolled my eyes, but since I wanted to get some I didn’t push the subject.

When we went upstairs, we left the door open ajar for yichud purposes. She ended up confessing that she actually felt like dating me some more, but that would mean that we couldn’t hook up. I agreed. We looked at her photo albums instead. Even though she leaned in closely and touched my knees regularly, it didn’t get hot and steamy.

I walked out of her building and thought that everyone was looking at me strangely. Then it dawned on me that I had missed z’man tefilah by 4 hours and a modern guy carrying a tefillin bag looks strange walking down Bennet Ave at 1 in the afternoon. The older Bruers ladies probably knew about tefillin dates. They probably thought of me as this new breed of alter bachur ruining their neighborhoods with eruvin and mingling of the sexes on street corners. Maybe they were staring at me because of  my long hair and the zoned out blue ball look in my eyes, but I think they knew of the tefillin date walk of shame that I was taking to get to my car. Whatever, that’s them not being dan l’kaf z’chus and mistakenly thinking I had just gotten some. In truth, I had just been on my first shomer negiah tefillin date.

{ 33 comments… add one }
  • Chuckie D June 3, 2010, 2:56 PM

    Heshy is the shomer nigga ridin on floatillas acting like a misnagdisher killa

  • A. Nuran June 3, 2010, 3:55 PM

    Awwwww, so sweet.

  • Anonymous June 3, 2010, 4:02 PM

    I really liked this, just because it so well represents the dichotomy of my life.

  • Jewish Gifts Girl June 3, 2010, 5:01 PM

    I love getting these peeks into young Orthodox Jew’s sex lives.

    • Mahla June 7, 2010, 8:56 PM

      Me too! :^D

  • Anonymous June 3, 2010, 5:41 PM

    What’s wrong with a shomer nagiah tefilin date? I don’t understand why people think that just because a girl and a guy are sleeping in the same building means they’re having sex.

  • Simon G June 3, 2010, 5:52 PM

    ^^ Agreed, I really liked this one too..

  • Mahla June 3, 2010, 5:57 PM

    This was AWESOME! Very well-written.

  • Bob June 3, 2010, 6:39 PM
  • Chuckie D June 3, 2010, 7:12 PM

    Yo hesh why won’t u post my messages? U affraid people will actually laugh. Caaaam aaan Hesh grow some balls.

    • Heshy Fried June 4, 2010, 1:45 AM

      I was working until 3pm, then rode my bike until 6:30 then went to s hiur until 9:30 and just got home at 10:20. You think I live on this here blog – both posts today were scheduled in advance.

      All posts from Thurs – Monday morning are usually scheduled in advance.

  • Leibel June 3, 2010, 11:42 PM

    Huh? I’ll tefillin date (make out with you), but I won’t date you afterwards, I’d be confused as hell if a girl said that to me.

  • definition? June 4, 2010, 12:21 AM

    what is the definition of a “tfillin date”?

  • D June 4, 2010, 1:21 AM

    A date where the man brings his Tefilin so he won’t Chas Veshalom miss Shacharis the next morning.

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