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Can you please take down my video I won’t get a shidduch

Every few months someone decides to make a fake shidduch video and post it on You Tube, and most of the time I post them here for you to see how some people are trying to combat the stupidity involved in shidduchim.

The judgements, the stereotypes, the hotel lobby’s – all that good stuff – and the people trying so desperately to make fun of it. Then, like clockwork, since this is the third time this has happened – I get an email or some sort of message asking me to remove the video because they are scared they won’t get a shidduch.


You put your damned video on You Tube, the nerve you have to request me or anyone else to take it down. Why don’t you take it down yourself?

The latest person to request this made that terrible video titled Shidduch Date Gone Bad, which is supposed to be making fun of shidduchim and shouldn’t be made by someone that is of the type that cares what people think – it’s on You Tube for Godsake!

You see if the person really meant this, they themselves should remove the video – so it’s more the prinicple that I am pissed off about. But requesting me to remove something that you posted, because it may hurt her shidduch just pisses me off.

Once in a while I have to vent…

Updated 1/12/10 Turns out the guy who put the video up got the email and I misread his email, which really did sound like he was asking me to take the video down. My appologies.

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  • SF2K1 January 3, 2010, 7:03 AM

    Please remove this post as evidence of us reading the site may hurt our future shidduch chances.

    Seriously, frum kids are going to learn like all other kids, when you put something on the internet, you are giving it to the entire world forever and nothing you do will ever get rid of it. If you leave your name or an easily traceable moniker or your picture/video, people will be able to find it and know it was you. In secular schools, this means posting embarrassing (possibly naked or “unprofessional”) pictures of yourself. For frum kids, this apparently means posting a video making fun of shidduch dating. They should be glad it’s nothing worse than that.

  • eyekanspel January 3, 2010, 7:23 AM

    Ah lighten up Hesh. I think they may be asking you to take it off just to piss you off (which they apparently succeeded in doing). I know the guy in the video is married, so who is worried about a shidduch? The girl? Really?? I just don’t buy that.

    • Heshy Fried January 3, 2010, 2:32 PM

      The guy who made the video, that has the video uploaded to his you tube account asked me to remove it – because all my fans saw it already and that it may hurt the girls shidduch chances. Seriously, the guy should just remove the video from his account, I remove videos and posts all the time.

      • eyekanspel January 3, 2010, 11:27 PM

        If the guy is serious I am surprised. And I agree with you that he should just remove it himself then. It’s not like you reuploaded the video somewhere else or were hosting it yourself.

        • Michaltastik January 4, 2010, 8:14 PM

          That guy is not just married but, he’s not even frum. Go through his videos. There’s one where he and his wife break into their friend’s apt. They show him on the can and in his underwear.

    • blue film October 13, 2012, 6:04 AM

      blue film

  • Shidduchim Suck January 3, 2010, 8:35 AM

    If this girl is so worried about her dating prospects diminishing from this video, then she shouldn’t be reading your blogs anymore. She may need to work on her personal hygiene or character in order to be approved for a shidduch; not rant about your posts. People create their own hysteria to monitor ones thoughts. These people seriously need to get a freakin’ life and stop bitching about bullshit like this. Their shidduch possibilities are slipping by as they go on a rave fest over this.

  • Anonymous January 3, 2010, 11:17 AM

    it’s probably the parents who are asking you to take it down.

  • havdla January 3, 2010, 1:44 PM

    Heshy, I love your blog, but here is 1 grammar rule that will fix 50% of your mistakes: only use ” ‘s “for possessive words, not for making words plural.

    • susitna January 4, 2010, 1:38 PM

      The only possessives that don’t have ‘s are pronouns: mine, ours, yours, his, hers, its, theirs. This should fix a goodly portion of the others.

      It’s = “it is”, a contraction, not a possessive.
      There’s = “there is”.

      Hesh, your grammar seems to be getting a little better, even without the editor.

  • David January 3, 2010, 10:12 PM

    wasn’t that video a joke, or was that girl actually Chassidish?

  • Pillar26 January 4, 2010, 12:53 AM

    Would the video realistically hurt her chances?

    • eyekanspel January 4, 2010, 5:41 AM

      I don’t know, but why would she even want to marry someone who would not be interested in her because she is in a fake shidduch video? I don’t get it.

    • Yes January 4, 2010, 3:21 PM

      Talking to a guy? That’s a big no-no.

      No frummies for her!


  • J January 6, 2010, 3:10 PM

    The guy who made this video is a professional actor named Seth Menachem he has a website sethmenachem.com with his videos on it. Hopefully he doesn’t show the video on his resume because it is not at all entertaining.

  • basharon January 6, 2010, 7:01 PM

    Hesh – uh. It was a fake video.
    So, we made some joking comments, whatever.
    Stop freaking out, you look stupid.

  • Michaltastik January 8, 2010, 12:25 AM

    I call BS on this one!

    I don’t think Hesh really got a request to take the vid down. I think he just wants the hits.

    • Heshy Fried January 8, 2010, 2:36 AM

      Give me your email address and I’ll send you a screen shot – if something is fake I say it’s fake within 5 comments if people really don’t get it.

  • Tevy January 8, 2010, 1:36 AM

    Hesh is right about this one.
    If you’re gonna be involved in the making/acting in a video of any sorts that’ll be publicized to a mass audience (i.e. youtube), you should know damn well that you’re opening yourself to public scrutiny if that’s what results… it’s like politicians – they go into public life so they know all their actions will be scrutinized, so they know damn well to watch what they do. It’s not the same scale, but people still have to realize the consequences of association through a public forum

  • Seth Menachem January 10, 2010, 2:50 PM

    I haven’t responded to any of these comments on the video because I guess I don’t really care. You can say whatever you want about me. But, now that you’re talking about the girl in the video it’s not fair to her. So, here’s the deal. Heshy, this video, as I think you know, is a joke. I never even found it that funny, to tell you the truth. My friend’s little sister (a 17-year-old Lubavitch girl who’s not worried about her shidduch chances) was visiting LA and asked me if she could act with me. I usually have a camera with me because I have a blog, lifeadvicefromoldpeople.com and use it to film interesting old people I meet. My friend held the camera while his sister put on this very funny “Boro Park” accent. She’s never done improv so I told her we’d give it a try. We made it up as we went along. After we were done, I had my friend give an intro to the sketch so it could feel like it had some structure and then I spent three minutes slapping it together and put it on YouTube so I could share it with their family. Somehow you saw it, thought it was funny, and put it on your blog. I asked my friend’s sister if she cared and she said she didn’t. That was the end of it. The truth is, I cared more than she did because I don’t find it that funny. It’s too long, shot horribly, and the only people who get it are frummies. But they were enjoying it and it doesn’t really affect me in any way having it up. My ego’s not that large :). Neither of us asked you to remove the video – why would we? I can just pull it off of YouTube myself. In fact, all the comments have been cracking her and her family up. I’m not saying you didn’t get an email to remove it but neither of us asked you to do it. Do you think a girl who has a sense of humor enough to do this really wants to get married to some nerd who gives a crap?

  • Seth Menachem January 10, 2010, 2:59 PM

    One more thing. You call this a “terrible video” in your post yet when you first put it up you sent me an email through YouTube and wrote me, “dude the video rocked

    Going to get you some mad hits from my blog – just curious – the girl you used – was she chabad?

    And it totally looked like she was wearing a sheitle – you should check out some of my vids”

    I guess to use your own words – “it’s more the principle I am pissed off about.”

    • Ouch March 11, 2013, 1:21 PM

      heshy got owned

  • tanu May 24, 2011, 11:55 PM

    full gatter video

  • macko oscar May 27, 2011, 5:21 AM

    meri TEVU

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  • rohith singh March 27, 2013, 10:48 PM

    nice video

  • pragna August 13, 2013, 3:24 AM

    this video is good.

  • azmeraw October 11, 2013, 4:26 AM

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