I have heard countless people say that if you make 3 shidduchim you get a direct VIP pass to heaven, but it seems like a load of crap to me. I know that may be a little heretical of me to say, kind of like doubting the validity of those Gadol stories, but I refuse to believe that God would ever provide an easy way out of the toil that is the life he gave us.
I remember asking one of my Rebbes in high school about something similar to this, the classic, “you mean to tell me that if I do this one thing I go to heaven, but does doing something so despicable by torah standards send me right to hell?” Of course the Rabbi had to pull one of those “not recommended-esque” answers that mashgichim like to give. “Well it’s understood differently, and we don’t really know, blah blah…” the high school rebbes version of takoo or halacha moshe mi-sinai – basically the cop out answer.
So why do people keep telling me to make one more match so I can go to heaven, seems kind of shady to tell someone on such a low madreiga as me. Tell people like me to do that and we will do that one thing and then go on a sinning spree. “You mean to tell me my three shidduchs, got me out of all these other sins I have accumulated.” Man I better get my fill!!!
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what i want to know is how many shidduchim one has to make before one has a shidduch for ones one self?
that’s a very good question. does that mean the man/woman has to be looking or does the shidduch walk into their face like Yaakov Oveinu walking into HKBH?
Now you can have all the homo fantasies you want!
What’s the problem? It’s either true or false. Plan accordingly.
Interesting point, I agree, if someone says just do this and you’ll be in, then they feel they can do whatever and still be in.
In regards to sins, I think we shouldn’t just look at what might happen to us, but at the consequences it has all around us. Just like mitzvos brings blessing to the world, aveiros bring negative energy to the world.
Taken to this logical conclusion, I foresee a Dexter-esque show where by day a regular Yeshiva guy plays Shadchan to all the miserable singles (especially the ones in the “Shiudduch Crisis”) and by night, he is a serial killer… and the entire show he knows he’s getting into Heaven cuz he already made his 3 Shidduchim. But here’s the catch – he has to make sure the marriages stay together or else all bets are off for him. I must pitch this to FOX.
Nice totally awesome comment
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Do you believe everything you hear from someone? Seems to me like you wrote this because you had nothing else to write. Making shidduchim is great, but it’s not a direct track to shamayim. Your best bet is doing mitzvos and being an eved Hashem.
Nothing else to write???
You must not realize that at any given time I have no less than 25 pre-written posts and dozens of ideas swirling about, this was written because someone wrote the idea on my facebook wall and I was wondering about it.
How long does a shidduch have to “last” for it to count?
Does a same-sex shidduch count?
And if those 3 shidduchim somehow disband afterward then I guess you will be going directly to hell. Be careful who you set up.
Same concept with birthing seven sons… though for some reason this folktale seems to only apply to the mother. I think it should apply to the father and all the children. Seriously, you ever have to deal with 6 other male siblings…. hell on earth.
This one was made up by someone who was trying to convince people to help set people up. Duh! This comes right after “If you have 7 consecutive sons, you go straight to heaven” and right before “If you learn Mishnayos, Avrohom Aveinu stops them from putting you in Hell.”
They’re all in the book of “Convince them to do one mitzva at a time.”
I don’t know why you are so skeptical. All three can easily be deduced from the words of the Chumash. Don’t you say “Bishlosh esrai middot haTorah nidreshet” every morning? Or maybe with a sov instead of a tav.
With a sov, and when I’m on time. But whether it can be deduced and whether it should be deduced are different issues. This one doesn’t make sense and therefore I don’t buy it.