Someone just sent this to me over Facebook with the note that all of his married friends received it, but that his single friends did not, whatever the case may be – I can definitely understand how some singles may be offended by this.
Of course God has hardened my heart and I don’t find myself offended by much of anything, but I have noticed that there are so many articles about ways to be nice to singles, which makes them look like a bunch of sissies, who can’t take it when someone acknowledges that they are not married.
I have seen so many articles proposing that married folks do away with giving singles the bracha of Im Yirtza Hashem By You, because its soooo damned offensive. Then there was also the t-shirt that said Im Yirtza Hashem F$^% You.
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This is SO offensive! I got it and I’m single. When I forwarded it to my friend her comment was, “I just threw up in my mouth.”
I’m pretty sensitive but I’m missing it….what is so offensive?
Benji
little do the happy couple (who are looking lovingly at their blond baby) know that the next thing the baby is going to do is a) run around the house and destroy it b) have a giant poop that explodes out of thediaper c) start crying and won’t stop for an hour. it’s so false to show one second of this “happy family” in order to sell their services. life isn’t like that. it’s much messier…
Amein! Well said Adena!
I don’t find it offensive…just kinda humorous. Since I’m a second-time single, WAS on frumster once and have no intention of starting a new family, and the focus of the ad seems to be mostly on the bio clock. (premise being: you were alone for the chagim – well next year this time you could have a husband AND baby!!!) That pretty much makes me realize that my decision to opt out of frumster was a wise one.
I find it offensive to use Baby Jesus in a shidduch ad.
Why is it offensive? Frumster is in the business of making shiddushim. The ad more or less claims that they are the answer to your shidduch problems. May or may not be true, but that’s how advertising works. Everyone touts their product as the answer to your probelms.
What is the offensive part? i dont see how anyone can be offendd by this…
Can someone please leave a comments for the dumbass (me)who doesnt understand the ad being offensive.
Thank you.
ps. Frum Satire- YOU R A KING
I’m single and I have no idea what is so offensive about the picture or the photograph… Please somebody explain. I mean, it says single and ALONE, not just single. Who doesn’t want to spend the chagim with loved ones?
This is completely offensive.
1) The hands of the adults are touching. Total violation of public tznius.
2) No way would that woman’s sheital pass for fake in Meah Shearim.
3) No peyos, black hat or beard on the guy. What is he, a goy?
your a retad
well maybe thats why the ppl in the ad are still single – its obvious they are actors
I don’t really find it offensive. Considering the fact that frumster is mainly directed towards frum jews – even if Garnel is sounding a bit whacky, he did just explain the reason why I had a thought in my head like “uhh…why do they look like mormons?”
What I want to know is why it takes two adults and four hands to keep that child in an upright position. Is it drunk?
In just a couple of years that baby will turn into a person. A few more years after that, it will want to borrow their car and stay out really late, making them sick with worry.
There should be more ads that promote relishing your singledom e.g. people travelling the world, reading an actual book, having a shower, sun-bathing, and sleeping past 5 a.m. Enjoy it while it lasts!!! These things are easily as good as holding a drunk baby.
LOLOLOL
I’m laughing at Garnel Ironheart’s post…
The caption based on that picture should be.
Single and Alone?
We’re Jealous!! No Diapers!
And it’s interesting to note that Frumster is careful not to “offend” any of their “modern” crowd by putting up a couple whose frum status is somewhat ambiguous.
And did you see the latest email they sent out? It’s as if they have my grandmother writing their captions.
not being married at 26 is offensive not this ad. there are plenty of lonely yiddin out there that want to start a family. and chagim are only not loney for you because you go to homes of married people with families during the chag. bottom line, this ad shows you a great mitvah Pruvu… heshy… Pruvu… you would not be offended by an ad that for a website that teaches you how to laign tefillin. these are all the mitzvot and you have to do them all if you can. maybe you’re offended because someone sent this to you. as if to say time to settle down. well we are our brothers keeper cain aren’t we? they just want you to be able to wear a tallis hagadol for sharchrias. whats offensive by that?
“Of course God has hardened my heart and I don’t find myself offended by much of anything, but I have noticed that there are so many articles about ways to be nice to singles, which makes them look like a bunch of sissies, who can’t take it when someone acknowledges that they are not married.”
Did you not read that part of the post where I said I would never find something like this offensive?
I find it offensive that they are fondling the poor kid… and he seems to like it.
i wasnt offended by the ad, i just thought it was overkill.
Eh, my goal in life isn’t to have a kids and diapers.
I feel like I might be more offended if I actually wanted a bunch of kids. Since I don’t, I don’t care.
Yes i was offended! glad to hear i wasn’t the only one
maybe thats reason why no one wants to marry you
Ez ,
Why are you being a prick?
Not only did they manage to offend many singles with this ad, but any married couple who may have seen this and who may be having fertility issues would probably be offended too.
as a single who has watched all my friends drop like bowling balls down a well into blissful wedded matrimony, i’ve found that it’s generally those with the sensitivity of a rutting rhino or who are shallower that an african river in the dry season who go early, whilst those who actually have some depth to them find it harder, as there aren’t all that many real people out there any more, so it’s no wonder that a few guys got worked up by the insensitivity of the ad, i mean “single and lonely”?!?!? like that’s gonna make me feel any better about it….
Yeah Dov! There are lots of sheep, and then there are us soul-deep geniuses.
The ad should say:
“Single and Alone? Time to have a massive party and calculate the amount of money you haven’t spent on a kid who’ll grow up to tell you how much you ruined their life. Enjoy your freedom, you lucky b***ards!!!”
When G-d said “Go forth and multiply,” people assume He meant children. He could have meant investments.
oops, typo! “single and alone” doesn’t do much for me either…
Dov the fact is there are singlesthat are looking for a good mate… and there are plenty of “real people” out there. i find it funny how everyone in this world find only thereself and a select few “real” you or i am no more real then any one else. we all have our masks and scripts, we just all wear different ones, and you huddle with the ones that look and sound as much like you. but that makes you or i any more real then anyone else. and and all of you that aren’t married and are actually offended, get over it… the only reason your not married yet is because youre selfish or indepentant (which really means you have attachment issues), or you want to tramp around, or you are looking but no one likes you so far. either way, this is something to long for and to want. get married!
and to CHAYA-
it should be all our goals to want babies and to pass the yiddishlikeit down to another generation. having a child should be everyone’s goal. because an orange tree is not about the roots and the limbs, its about the oranges. its about our seed and ulimately life. to create life to perpetuate Judaism in the world to raise up a generation. to give by sacrificing everything in your life, your agenda your way for another, this is true menchkeit this is the first commandment, pruvu and let me tell you there is a reason its the first… that is goal number one!!!
If you think this ad is offensive you should see their original ad. “Hey single losers, do you want to die alone and bitter? Then get a move on and use Frumster”.
(I know this comment is really, really late, but–so what?!)
Dov: ‘Typo,’ my foot; more like ‘Freudian slip.’
Garnel: Excellent. Tongue. Firmly. Superglued. To. Cheek.
I see nothing, absolutely nothing offensive in this ad. If you’re single and happy, it wouldn’t affect you. If you’re single and ‘alone,’ or lonely, or looking–it would just impress upon you to keep looking, and not give up, or descend into a depression–depending on your emotional makeup–in the latter’s case you should get professional help anyway, and this might give you the impetus to do so.
Yes, babies are messy. A life’s partner may not always be ‘the right one.’ But there is no perfection in the physical world, so get as much experience as you can, and just enjoy the roller coaster ride!