I use Facebook and google to check up on potential dates, but honestly who doesn’t? Seriously this used to be a shady stalkerish tactic, but times have changed my friends, and internet back round checks are the way of the future.
Besides, stalking your date prior to going out with them is a lot of fun. I always search google images first, because I believe in getting the bad news first, but luckily for me google images usually comes up blank, it seems that every Jewish girl name search in google brings up some sort of genealogy chart and pictures of women old enough to be your bubbie.
I have been doing google girl searches for a long time before it has been acceptable to admit this. Back before Google became an official verb, I would do this, but it had to be kept secret, very secret for the one time I assumed the girl was relaxed enough to hear that I found her profile on Onlysimchas.com but was disappointed to find no picture she demanded to know how I had found it? I told her that I Googled her and she went berserk, like I was some freak for wanting to know more than what our mutual friend had told me, because everyone who wants you to go out with their friend switches to sales mode when talking about their attributes.
One day, probably around the same time that Facebook opened its doors to tweens and preteens it became acceptable to conduct extensive back round checks on the internet of potential dates. Facebook is basically inviting you to look for dirt and thanks to my favorite feature tagged pictures the girl you are researching can’t just hide her true figure behind a well placed column and a thinning black skirt, you would be surprised to see how different people look in their profile pictures and their tagged pictures.
Does this mean that blind dates are dead and the matchmaking industry is going the way of the American automakers?
Blind dating has its virtues, for me it was a rush of sorts, kind of like playing the lottery, you never knew what was going to happen, although I mostly assumed it be crappy until I would win once in a while. I do wonder if I will miss the joy of haggling with the neighborhood shadchan (matchmaker) and finding subtle ways to reject the dating offerings from my Charedi cousins in Monsey?
Although googling and facebooking potential dates can be a lot of fun and informative, one should an open mind. People are too quick to judge folks based on their friends, half naked drunken pictures taken from their spring break in Cancun and whether or not they are a Yankees fan. There is more to people than what they put on their Facebook profiles, although if you find their blog you can pretty much assume it is describing their alter ego and what they wish they were but never will be.
Do you have any interesting shidduch dating stalker – backround check stories?
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yea, one time i googled my date’s name in google images, and it turns out she shares the same name as some pornstar. jackpot! got some pretty awesome pictures, but unfortunately the date didn’t live up to even 1/1,000th of the pics i got and i was left wondering “what if” the whole date.
I stalked myself when I’m having a slow day at work.
Considering you, that’s pretty damn scary…you freak.
I think he’s talking about the countless anonymous bloggers, pretty much everyone who reads this blog has met Heshy on the street, in shul or gone to one of his shows, and knows the real person
Don’t worry Hesh, I googled you too – that’s how I found your blog, before we dated I had no idea who you were (no offense) but I was so much more excited after finding your blog – shame it didn’t work out, now were only Facebook friends
I could never know who you are because I have dated at least 15 girls who were blog fans
I’ve been googled. I thought it was really creepy…but then I realized it was creepy because I couldn’t stand the guy I was out with. Guys that I’ve met online/wherever that I’ve ended up becoming friends with, though? I wasn’t so creeped out.
Note to all ladies interested in dating Heshy:
Google:”Homeless bum who doesnt shave or take a haircut and eats stanger’s left overs at Dougies”
Dude they all know that already, first they stalk me and know all there is – I am not anonymous like you – I’m proud of what I do.
I would date Heshy, but I don’t think he is into guys over 35.
Shana tova to all!!!
Just admit it Heshy you grow your hair long cause your rebelling against your parents. So if your dad was a hippoe you’d “rebel” and be yeshivish
My hair has been long for most of my life, but almost every job I have had in the past required short hair. I had hair down to my shoulders for most of college – it was cut short in December 2005.
My family and father are a very cry from yeshivish – as I have said in the past I wish I had something to rebel against but I don’t.
Dude check this out.My father in law googled me when I was dating his daughter.He didn’t find anything cause I never use my real name.Than he googled my dad and got some inside info on him. Then he starts rambling about my dad like he knows him.And I’m like”I also googled my dad”.
I love stalking myself on Google. A few months ago I stumbled across a blog of a girl who wrote about how hilarious she thought I was back in high school (she used my real name and even spelled it correctly, what a shocker) so I looked her up and added her on facebook.
Though sometimes I can’t imagine what other people might think of me after reading the Google search results for my name.
Meh.
Google my name and you’ll find I’m a married christian who’s been detained in a psych ward. Google my handle and you’ll find out more about me in general (surprise I’m Jewish and have been active on a number of blogs/forums).
Googling names is just asking for getting a wrong ID. Google their email for real info.
you have to know how to use google – its a very complicated search engine – bolean search is how they do it – look it up. Besides there’s always google images.
Wow Hesh, a post that everyone even non-orthodox people can understand without having to google any terms or words – no pun intended
Not sure that this is true:), but thanks for a post.
Thanks