I love awkward frummie engagement pictures, they really do rock. I as well as many of you call it “the lean” which is when the couple leans awkwardly to a center pont but is rarely close enough to denote the fact they are married or about to get married.
I am not one to do the lean, maybe because I don’t think girls have the cooties or I am just not frum enough, but the leasn can be done in many ways. There is the type of lean here the couple is leaning but you cpould fit a person in between them and then there is the type of picture where the couple is almost touching, giving the illusion that after 3 weeks of dating they fell in love.
What about the touching lean, they are actually touching, but not intentionally, kind of an afterthought of touching, like oops you passed me the chrain and I touched your hand.
Then you have the head lean, lets stand straight and lean our heads in.
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I am always amazed at family pictures with kids that the men and women quite often (also depends on degree of frumeness) will put a shoulder around their kids (shows they are modern) but will be far away from their spouses. As if they are together only for the kids or forgot they were in it together.
A bigger item is the showing affinity in public. Some parents don’t even do that to their kids.
my mom and dad once kissed in the parking lot of my high school after being called in for a meeting about me and my penchant for wearing all black clothes (yes, that was the topic of the meeting- I was slightly goth in the 90s, so my principle decided I must be in a cult). Some girls saw them from the window and were horrified.
why is it necessary to lean? Why can’t you just stand next to the one you are about to marry? That way it doesn’t look akward. standing next to someone looks normal, leaning looks abnormal:)
What if both are trying to eat matzah — do they do a parallel lean to the left?
whatup with the people in the picture leaning? they look married. maybe she messed up her BC and was a niddah during her wedding.
I’m sorry but if you are doing a story about people who are engaged you shouldn’t put up a picture of newly weds that is just confusing…
Probably the photographer’s fault. They often tell people to lean in next to each other. Not sure why they aren’t touching, maybe the guy in the pic isn’t the groom.
I like the ones where the guy and girl are each on the side of the giant floral arrangement he sent her. It’s like they must be in their own zipcode or something.
Yeah, I’ve noticed that too. The flowers/act like a frummie photographic mechitza. It does serve its purpose by allowing them to know that they are standing as close together as possible without actually touching.
Every once in a while you see a picture where they actually appear to be touching, although if you look more closely they aren’t. Maybe that will be banned because of mara’as ayin.
At least the kissy face phenomenon hasn’t reached the frum world.
love the engagment pic where they are both on the phone
Nah come on – its cute! The awkward stage – we all go through it at some point or another.