Last month the Jewish internet world was turned upside down like sodom, when it was revealed that a website for frum extramarital affairs existed. We all knew that wife swapping was going on, we were shocked.
Shaindy.com makes it easy for frum folks to have extra marital affairs, how on earth these people consider themselves frum is beyond me – but frum people want to have sex with other frum people, and if your married you don’t have to explain to your potential partner why you have to take a room at some obscure hotel rather than a mainstream hotel for fear of shidduch dates seeing you on your affair.
I wrote about Shaindy.com a little over a month ago, and even though an interview with the owner was published by Jewcy.com yesterday – I still think the site is a sham and used to blackmail unsuspecting people by using their information. The owner claims to have over 2000 members, none of which will actuallty admit it, and I don’t believe him.
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Umm actually isn’t there no such thing as “frum extramarital affairs.” You can’t have a “frum” affair, that’s like having a “frum” pork chop with a side of fried shrimp. It’s wrong, and you can think you’re frum and do it but you’re just lying to yourself. These people need to repent.
In a marriage where two people truly love each other, this shouldn`t happen. I don`t think it`s a real website either, but if it is, shame on whoever is on there.
Mmmmm Frum Pork Chops.
@susqhb
That interview is disgusting. His whole attitude is disgusting. ughhh!!!
i just checked out the website for fun and it does seem strange…whats with the home page pictures? i highly doubt a ‘frum’ couple started it. it does seem like a scam
i just read the interview, its quite pathetic. actually. as a side point, ‘jerry’ said that while he was brought up religious, now he believes in ’shit’, so its fair to assume that these are not frum people who run the site. it’s disgusting. he has no boosha!
he seems pretty unintelligent or at the very least very poorly educated, judging by his grammar and typos. one would expect even someone like “jerry” to make some effort to clean up his act, at least for an interview. and shame on jewcy for not correcting him….unless their point was to make him look bad, in which case, well done!
favorite slip-up: “it’s a viscous cycle”
viscous is one of my favorite science vocab words and means how thick a liquid is. for example, slow flowing honey is more viscous than water. as a noun it would be “viscosity.”
I don’t know if the site is real, but it is a fact that frum people cheat, there are lots of people in the NY area who do so and I am unfortunate enough to know one or two…who in turn know of way too many. These are all outwardly frum people. I guess they do consider themselves frum but… frum but sinning? Dunno.
Jelen – Nothing is better than people being grammar Nazis while they can’t capitalize their own sentences. Well done.
He now believes in shit? That doesn’t make any sense! Does Jerry take a crap and then before he flushes he gets on his knees and prays to his shit? This guy is one sick mofo! On a more serious note, I think this site is a scam, but not to blackmail people. This guy is probably not Jewish and is just looking to make money off Jews.
sorry, to clarify: he said that he believes in ’shit’ meaning he believes in nothing. i highly doubt he believes in his own crap.
i wouldnt put it past him, though
Gingerkid, I think Anon, got that they were just being funny. It sounds like something I would say.
Frum technically mean observant, does it not? I think when some people say frum, they mean “look the part.”
For someone who worked so hard to become Jewish and see this crap, it really annoys me. They were born Jewish and this is what they do with it. I was not, and look how hard I had to work to get there….
Michal, I tip my hat to you, and truly respect you for your hard work.
The creation of this site is extremely sad. Adultery is not just a “sin,” it is the worst sin. Right up there with worshiping shit and murder. I cant understand how Mr. shit worshiper tries to justify his actions? When he gets to hell I bet I know how they are gonna punish him. They are going to deprive him of looking at shit, smelling shit, bowing to shit, or taking a shit!
sorry people I’m overtired.
Terrible! (Like all of us, I’m sorry I didn’t think of it first, too)
I’m certain that the site is a spoof, much like that man who was advocating for pelegesh movement a few years ago. Yes, there are a handful of our people participating in such avairos, but certainly not enough for a website.
Think what would happen if one of these “frum” men was matched up with his mother, his sister or his daughter!
I’m sorry but no one’s commented on the wry sense of humor in the title
“Cheating is for Winners.” It’s hilarious, and it speaks for itself. Also, makes you wonder what Jewcy really thinks of the Orthodox opening up sexually, even through adulterous websites.
veebee: here’s the difference between what bugs me and what doesn’t bug me. not capitalizing sentences in internet environments (such as this, im’s and casual emails) is clearly just a function of convenience. no one actually thinks that sentences do not need to be capitalized.
but when people use “your” instead of “you’re” or “there” instead of “their” or “they’re” or do not make an effort to spell things correctly or an interview….THAT’S what gets under my skin. this shaindy man is clearly a hated man, and if he is trying to make a case for himself, there is an expectation that he would try to come off as intelligent.
i’m sorry, “IN an interview, not OR”
…move quotation marks to the correct spot
“As you can see, I am enjoying this way much more than I should. Are you into couples?”
HAHAHAHA What a weirdo.
It is, in fact, a viscous cycle.
“Jerry” says,
“We are into the swinger lifestyle. We go to swinger clubs and we do it ONLY together. ”
Ultimate douchebaggery.
EW EW EW EW
Does anyone knoe if this site actually works I tried it a few monthes back(JUST FOR CURIOSITY)and it seemed like in was closed down
The person running the site should be hanged by his ,,,,,
As far as I know, the problem is relegated to people who were raised in diluted Jewish homes, where the only mention of God is when someone needs to curse.
“We are into the swinger lifestyle. We go to swinger clubs and we do it ONLY together”
whats ur screan name?
The people that do stuff like this (“frummies” that cheat or swing) are people raised religious that desperately want to be off the derech but they don’t have the balls. It’s more comfortable to lie and pretend than shake up friendships and family members.
My guess is that they are getting all male signups to the service, most likely teenage or unmarried.
As the saying goes, “there’s another sucker born every day”.
The dude who made this site deserves getting raped by Woopie Goldberg and Rosie O’Donald as punishment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@Phil
“There’s a sucker born every minute” –Phineas T. Barnum, the inventor of the circus sideshow.
People cheat on their spouses just as people eat non kosher or stray from the path of religion. Yes its outrageous that people engage themselves in such illicit behavior but in this society and with the level its descended to, I think the term shocking is outdated. It doesn’t mean we should condone and accept this kind of activity. But to still consider yourself a devoutly religious person after all of that is an oxymoron. This man should review the 10 commandments and look at the section. How could anyone justify infidelity is beyond me. You may as well tell marriage to go f**k itself.
Actually I do know some Orthodox Jews who think that the way to get rid of mamzerim and problems that these trysts create is to do away with marriage altogether.
This concept is similar to tefillin dating.
I did visit the site.From the looks if it,shockingly there is a diversity of about %50 male %50 female.On these types of websites it’s usually about %99.999999999999999999 male and about %0.00000000000001 female.Very interesting indeed
Yeshiva Dude,
They probably were tefillin daters who said that. I don’t doubt it.
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so me and a friend saw your last article and thought it would be fun to sign on.. so we did.. we got this chasidish guy from new york.. who likes kissing and sex and wants to be our FRIAND.. im guessing he didnt learn to much english… i wish we could meet these guys and tell their wives.. i bet hes got like 10 kids and in kolel.. oh so now we know what there really doing in “Kolel”
me and shmuely went on and pretented we were a girl…every single guy was hitting on us. They sent us pics to. it turns out they were all nasty
chasidishe guys. it was fun. they still dont know we are guys. one of us sent us a pic of there cock, nasty.
we sent them a pic of our nuts. now they know we are guys. I think the guy liked it.
I think allot of us dream about cheating with that beautifull girl, its just natural, unfortunantly it is now all too easy to do it.
I am not saying I didnt contenplate this, I am not saying I didnt cheat. I am saying to everyone out there to try your best, as I say to myself, to be the absolute best spouse you can be.
The marriage contract you signed is binding, and means allot, to you and your spouse, it’s precious. Dont blow it just to satisfy your flesh. Would you like it if your spouse did to you what you are thinking of doing? how would you feel? how do you think your spouse will feel when she finds out?
Pretty lousy, not as lousy as you will feel about yourself after you do these averot, and for what? to what benefit? for a moment of joy? is it really joy?
is it worth it to ruin your marriage your family heritage, your status.
Yes I say status because once you cheat you degrade yourself.
In summation I think you should be strong, then you will truly be free, and enjoy your life, your family, your children