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Why I chose not to write about India

Since man y of you have commented and emailed me asking me to write something here it is. I didn’t write about the event because there is nothing to say,what another memorial- I did my own memorial- I don’t know I guess I would rather bring laughter then sadness. I was sitting at a shabbos table and someone mentioned it and all conversation stopped for like 10 minutes- maybe thats one of the reason. I just feel like bringing it up. Personal decision- stupid, maybe, but thats what I chose, and I am even pissed I have to write about it now.

I do wonder why people are suddenly complaining I don’t write about terrible events happening to Jews. There are blogs devoted to this sort of thing, go read one of the blogs that update daily about many Jewish people being killed in Israel every day- I just don’t do it.

I leave you with a sad but amazing song to get your mind in a sad mood because maybe thats what you wanted.

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  • heterim are for hippies November 30, 2008, 1:47 PM

    The most important way to respond and what I imagine the shluchim want for us to do is bring more light into the world. That’s after all what they dedicated their lives to. May we merit the immediate revelation of what 2,000 years of suffering will all have been worth.

  • The Jewish Side November 30, 2008, 2:44 PM

    I’m with you on this one.

  • utubefan November 30, 2008, 2:53 PM

    I just wanted you to go dark for a day or two. Because at the end of the day, it is “Frum” Satire. Frum is not just funny. It never will be. So, if something tragic happens to our family, we don’t make jokes immediately afterward. We are family.

  • phizla November 30, 2008, 3:29 PM

    I am with you on this, there is enough sadness in this world. Whether it be in the worlds center stage or in our private dressing rooms. Some people (me) use this site and other funny sometimes contraversial websites for escape. Thank you for the laughs and sorry that you were placed in this situation by so called fans. Dark can sometimes keep you submerged I prefer to follow the light when possible. Family helps by putting a smile on your face in the middle of the storm not bringing down to the pits of darkness. You Hesh put a smile many atimes on my face. Thank you!

  • shevers November 30, 2008, 3:32 PM

    I’m with Heterim for Hippies. Instead of focusing on the darkness of the whole event, all of us need to move forward and continue to bring light into the world in our own way.

    (I don’t mean move on, I mean moving forward. Just clarifying before I get attacked).

  • B-Boy November 30, 2008, 3:41 PM

    come on!
    nobody is saying you should start crying, if you don’t feel hurt, i cant help you.
    at least a bit of sensitivity for the the majority of Jews who are hurting.

  • chanief November 30, 2008, 4:29 PM

    I completely disagree with you on this one Hesh. Unfortunately, ignoring sad or difficult events doesn’t make them go away. I don’t think you need to do some deep, soul searching, depressing post about it, but ignoring it like it never happened isn’t appropriate either. A simple “My thoughts are with those suffering as a result of the attacks in Mumbai” or some such one liner would have done fine.

    Like it or not you’re a member of a community and when the entire community* is hurting, it behooves you, as a popular blogger, to acknowledge it.

    *let alone the world community, but the Jewish community in particular.

  • m00kie November 30, 2008, 4:35 PM

    FS i agree with you – it’s not because you’re here to bring laughter and not sadness, but because this site is dedicated to laughter and writing about this tragedy here would almost trivialize it. this isnt the place for it and you recognized that.
    if anyone assumes that you didnt get sad over what happened then i think they probably dont understand you.

  • coolyiddishemama November 30, 2008, 4:46 PM

    I’m with all of you. I didn’t comment on the tragedy on my blog either since so many before me accomplished the task much better than I could.

    After every tragedy (whether it was Mumbai in 2008 or New York/Washington) in 2001, we show that the enemy has not gotten to us by finding the light within the darkness. The murder of these tzaddikim did likewise sadden me but I still needed to focus on the duties G-d put on my plate: mother, wife, etc.

    FS: good call…

  • Phil November 30, 2008, 6:19 PM


    I with you on this one. Nothing funny about the tragedy, why bother posting to a satire blog when there are hundreds of serious blogs and web sites that posted the story?

  • s(b.) November 30, 2008, 7:04 PM

    heterim are for hippies // Nov 30, 2008 at 1:47 pm

    The most important way to respond and what I imagine the shluchim want for us to do is bring more light into the world.

    I agree with that. And thanks for sharing the music of Remedy — gonna turn my pop on to that when he’s done sleeping off getting back from Israel. 🙂 As for the song, I don’t know what he means by retribution, at the end. While I’m glad he acknowledged the killing of others by the Nazis, the would kick the # up to 12 million (though for his personal song meaning purposes, I see why he used six million). I tend to run in a more global mode, ’cause I think it helps bring people together and related to stuff (but that’s me, not him, and I can go write my own song, if I want).
    Side story: I got a text from a friend saying sorry to hear about the rabbi who was killed in India (what about his wife? I guess rabbis get all the publicity.). I replied that I was sorry to hear about the Wal-Mart employee who was trampled to death in Black Friday shopping chaos on Long Island, and that every senseless death is a tragedy. For me, part of being Jewish is having compassion for everyone, not just Jews. Coming from the person who sent it, it was a nice gesture of a text, even if I found it annoying ’cause I was thinking about the rebbetzin more than the rav.)
    As for you addressing tragedies, while I don’t think a humor/satire blog (or you, personally) have any obligation to share your own feelings of sadness regarding anything, I like that you have addressed tragedies like the rubashkin’s scandal and people molesting children in yeshivas. Perhaps there’s clip art of an Israeli flag at half-mast you could just post when you don’t feel like getting into it? Perhaps your blog is bigger than just you and being able to discuss feelings about these matters without the regular readers of other blogs weighing in is a good thing for those who read your blog regularly? Perhaps mentioning stuff like this is good marketing for your blog and keeps readers coming back? (which would be a sucky reason to mention it, since the blog isn’t your main pay check, but reality exists, too) I don’t know, man. I think you handled it well, since you decided to handle it at all. Just keep doing it your way, be true to yourself. Some will stay, some will go. Crank up Abbey Road or The White Album; hold your head high.

  • Frum Satire November 30, 2008, 8:27 PM

    For those of you who are my facebook or Gtalk friends you noticed I had a little something- hence no comments on facebook asking me for something because I had posted something.

  • Anonymous November 30, 2008, 9:17 PM

    I just watched that video and it made me sick to my stomach. I’m literally nauseated. And, as the grandchild of three Holocaust survivors, I’m offended. Did anyone else find this offensive?

  • Frum Satire November 30, 2008, 9:36 PM

    Anon- I put it up as some sort of memorial- its one of the only times a famous rap group has done a tribute to Holocaust victims

  • Phil November 30, 2008, 10:11 PM

    That video was very annoying, just seemed like the guy was trying to exploit the holocaust. I also hate rap music,which made it even more annoying.

    Hesh, that video wasn’t any more of a tribute to the victims than Slayer’s infamous “Angel of death” track. At least that tune rocked, the lyrics could be interpreted as glorifying Mengele or as remembering the horrible things he did to his victims.

  • Sarah Zeldman November 30, 2008, 10:15 PM

    I agree with everyone here, and no one.

    The only thing that we can all agree on is that everyone has a different opinion. Who is to say what is right and wrong. There are many ways to deal with grief. Leave Heshy Alone. Get a life people. Mourn in your own way and let Heshy decide what is right for him and his blog.

    Maybe it’s not the way I would have done it…but that doesn’t make it wrong.

  • Frum Satire November 30, 2008, 10:45 PM

    Jeez I can’t make any of you happy- I thought the video was in good taste and the song is a classic- sorry I cant please everyone.

  • shevers November 30, 2008, 10:46 PM

    I think everyones just grumpy.

  • s(b.) December 1, 2008, 3:23 AM

    Zeldman’s right; pass the garlic dip. Chin up, Hesh. People are responsible for their own happiness. Let you be the blog, don’t let the blog be you, you know? layla tov.

  • Leora December 1, 2008, 5:36 AM

    Maybe you just need someone to help you with the vocabulary of tragedy. If someone brings it up in conversation, say, yeah, that was painful.

    On the blog, you could say, May the families find comfort. And stay tuned for some humor, for those us that are craving humor! Yes, people need humor. I’ve heard people cracking jokes while sitting shiva. But it’s healthier if one first acknowledges the pain and the loss.

  • offthederech December 1, 2008, 8:04 AM

    So, people have been mussaring you out, eh?
    It happens all the time, here’s the deal:
    Big tragedy happens, people get all frustrated, don’t know what to do. They feel a need to do something productive about it. So they go yell at their favorite J-blogger about why isn’t he moping enough about it.
    Not your fault.

  • Sarah Zeldman December 1, 2008, 8:12 AM

    Yes. People are grumpy AND you can’t please everyone.

  • ann. December 1, 2008, 9:43 AM

    just for the record, hesh the video was not in bad taste. the song is by wu tang clan, and one if not more of its members are jewish. they say the name reuven ben menachem in the song which i believe is one of the rappers grandfathers.

  • Taking VIN to task December 1, 2008, 10:24 AM

    I much prefer your approach to this tragedy than the irresponsible armchair reporting engaged by other blogs, namely, VosIzNeias (VIN). In an effort to “scoop” the story, they reported early Thursday afternoon that Rabbi Holzberg was found dead. Did VIN consider whether the obscure Indian news outlet credited with disseminating this information was creditable before blasting it for a few hours across the top of their homepage that fateful afternoon? Did they wonder why no respectable media agency was reporting this story? [Kudos to Yeshiva World for showing restraint.] Was any thought given to how family members who were desperate for news on their loved ones might react? Lastly, if even one person stopped davening after reading VIN’s report, should VIN be held accountable? As everyone now knows, the Rabbi was not murdered r”l until late Friday afternoon based on the condition of his body. This is why anonymous bloggers have no business pretending to be reporters. At least with an established news agency, they know if they blow a story there will be repercussions, not the least of which is their reputation. VIN should apologize to its readers for acting recklessly.

  • Anonymous December 2, 2008, 1:23 AM

    Sometimes a Jew needs to be sad.
    Sometimes a Jew needs to weep.

  • Frum Satire December 2, 2008, 1:52 AM

    I don’t know about the whole VIN thing, I just stopped going to their site after I saw it the first time.

  • anon December 4, 2008, 3:52 AM

    As the child of Roman Catholics from Northern Ireland, the people who brought you Semtex bombs in public places, I weep for the rav, his wife, and their now orphaned toddler.

    Violence has no place in the life of the truly devout.

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