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Lecha Dodi Observations

This video documents my thoughts about the nuances of Lecha Dodi. There are many of them, mostly due to the fact that the chazans do not believe in the democratic process when it coems to picking tunes and switching them at the Lo Savoshy switcharoo. It is also the only time when you have the opportunity to gaze over the mechitza without straining your retinas through extreme peripheral vision or doing that whole neck cracking thing this is what I call the Lecha Dodi Lookback. Enjoy!

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  • A23 February 21, 2008, 11:33 PM

    The part about the siddur holding deserves much more attention- major issue. (It’s also very hard to see women’s faces because of this)

  • Hesh February 22, 2008, 12:14 AM

    Dude all of these things can be broken down- I have talked about this stuff before, I would love a venue where I can get up and rant- that is my real goal, I tend to do better when I have an audience.

  • david February 22, 2008, 9:01 AM

    Dude…u can drop the H bomb (hell) once in a while.. I can visably see the struggle u having with the new No Nivul Peh policy.
    Chill it out a bit!

  • Reader February 22, 2008, 9:59 AM

    Why? It’s a good policy.

    Nice layout.

  • Hesh February 22, 2008, 10:38 AM

    Hell is not nivel peh, at least according to me, nor is crap- bitch is also borderline. Because even bitch used in undertone could be a word used with many Rabbis I know. Bastard is not nivel peh, hmm there is more.

  • Rach February 22, 2008, 11:24 AM

    Whats nivel peh? Lie guarding your tongue? I reckon women hold their siddurim like that, either cos they are pregnant, and a pregnant belly is a good place to rest a siddur, or because the are fat, and want to hide their stomach a little, or maybe cos guys in general have latger arm muscles, so can hold their siddur for a long time with merely one hand, while girls have smaller arm muscles, so need to use a joint effort of both hands, thus the supporting hand.

    Looks like you’ve got the whole timeig thing worked out, i guess your shul doesn’t have one way glass or thick curtains as a mechitza, lucky for you! I know, its great that we girls get to check out the guys the entire time, its a good option to have during like torah reading when things can get a bit boring stimes

  • The Babysitter February 22, 2008, 12:17 PM

    lol, that siddur part is funny. I realized that too, that woman hold their siddur like that. I used to do that, dunno why though, it comes naturally, I never thought about it before. (But I’m not pregnant or fat, so its not any of those reasons)
    I’ve never been to shul for Licha Dodi, maybe when I was really little, so I dunno about the whole tune switching thing.

  • Yaakov February 22, 2008, 3:20 PM

    Brilliant insights into lecha dodi. VERY funny. Wow, the siddur thing…that needs a lot of attention. I have never thought about it. btw. whats with “the women’s siddur” the white siddur they sell?

  • Rob Halford February 23, 2008, 9:04 PM

    I can’t stand shul. It looks like there’s way too many things going on there that piss me off and most others as well but I guess not enough to get them to stop going. Sure worked for me.

  • mazeartist February 24, 2008, 11:26 PM

    My minyan won’t let me do the Lo Sevoshi swicheroo, so I do something original- I sing out “Mizmor shir l’yom haShabbos,” where the tune drops at the end of every sentence. No, i do not repeat “tov l’hodos lashem,” as some shuls do. If we did, we’d be there for another hour.

    We also sing Mizmor L’David and Shiru L’HaShem Shir Hadash. Basically, I try to sing out the entire Firday nite service, and still conform within the one hour time limit.

  • Hesh February 25, 2008, 12:28 AM

    Thanks Maze gave some ideas I should do a whole post on singing within the orthodox minyanim.

  • mazearist February 25, 2008, 2:58 PM

    Next time you’re in Queens, lemme know, an I’ll show you what i do.

  • Frum Funky Fab(slightly eidel) February 26, 2008, 8:59 AM

    EXCELLENT VIDEO!!! Loved the line about not too many black yeshivish guys. Thanks. I actually laughed out loud.

    Major props on this new policy that I was not aware of!!! Kol Hakavod! Gotta say that someone really needs to establish an offical “Nivul Peh” list of words that are forboden (whee are those 2 little german dot things on the keyboard?) because for the past several years I have been waltzing around using certain terminology that, due to my extreme innocence, I had NO CLUE were nivul peh, and ended up MORTIFIED. I used some of these words in front of EVERYONE! Friends, Rabbeim, HASHEM?!?! OY! It seems lots of people have issues with this and I have a feeling that now you’re going to write some article on the topic. See if you can do it without actually using any of the words in question and I will be most appreciative, AND pass it along so that this important news item is proliferated amongst the ignorant and naive.

    Anyhow. Brilliant post. The siddur holding thing is as follows. Men have lots more UPPER body strength, and women have more LOWER body strength, What means is that sometimes we just do not have the koach to hold that siddur with only one hand. Especially if its the full size and not the pocket size. The ones who support their elbow with the opposing hand are feeling WEAK!!!
    And yeah, I totally do the finger as a bookmark move, couldn’t live without it, so, ani lo maskima on that one.
    Keep on truckin’!

  • Hesh February 26, 2008, 11:10 AM

    Wow great comment and it was the first one I read today- put me in a happy mood- thank you.

    I didn’t know that holding a siddur required so much strength?

  • M February 28, 2008, 8:18 AM

    LOL- part of the many things you will be learning about women- how is a woman like a computer? Whatever you do you won’t understand her. (It was actually funnier but I don’t remember how it goes- part of the email about men and women being like computers-if I find it I’ll send it bli neder)

  • Frum Funky Fab (slightly eidel) March 1, 2008, 11:54 AM

    AW thanks…Have to say I am really impressed with you and your bechirah. Also, I consulted with my roommate and she also does the finger place holder in the siddur thing.

    PS you made me all paranoid about bowing during lecha dodi last night and now I can’t remember what I do normally, thanks a LOT!!!

  • Frum Funky Fab (slightly eidel) March 1, 2008, 11:54 AM

    Oh, and I forgot how much I loved your blog, its good to be back.

  • krum May 13, 2009, 3:16 PM

    It’s not just ties — also glasses. Yeshivish people wear the funkiest glasses.

  • Talia September 17, 2009, 7:18 PM

    This was extremely interesting…I’m doing an article about nivul peh and when I googled it this came out, and when I’m watching the video I’m like what does this have to do with nivul peh? Then I read the comments and I’m like ahhhhh.

    To comment on the video, that was really funny, I laughed out loud a few times. Where did you come up with this topic?

    To comment on the whole nivul peh thing, nivul peh is defined as any language that isn’t appropriate in polite company. So if you wouldn’t say it in front of your rabbi, it’s nivul peh. The gemara states that “we all know why a bride goes under the chuppah, but we still shouldn’t talk about it.” Nivul peh is obviously any words we currently classify as foul language, like four letter words, but it’s also anything not so nice or inappropriate.

    To comment on the siddur-holding thing, I always do the finger-bookmark thing, and so do the rest of my friends! I must admit that I do hold my siddur the way you demonstrated, but I also hold my siddur the way you claim men do. When I sit I also often just keep it in my lap because I’m too lazy to actually hold it up.

    Shana tova!

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