Comments on: Thoughts before, during and after a shidduch date

By: Rach

Rach — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 22:45:01 +0000

Sounds like you should set up dates in different states and take a road trip around America, hey that sounds like fun actually. Florida? Nope, moving on, Georgia, 3 down, 5 to go….New York? Wow, looks like i could be here for years… singles everywhere…

Just make sure not all the singles don’t go for the road trip idea at once or there will be no one stationary left to date.

By: Hesh

Hesh — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 22:06:47 +0000

The phone date is only for people who live over 100 miles away from their date. Why travel that distance- for me its at least 150 and know in your heart that this person is not for you.

If I talk to a girl that wants a learning guy and my idea of learning is reading an English Tanya- that is obviously not going to work. Or if the girl wants a fancy dude who dresses in style and loves to drink scotch- doubt thats going to work.

Phone date was misleading, I talked to a few girls in the last few weeks- both at least 600 miles from me- should I go out with them if on the phone we realized we have nothing in common?

By: RE

RE — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 21:54:53 +0000

You New Yorkers ARE the shidduch crisis…featured live, and in person!

Phone dates? What IS that? Could you please give me an example of what someone could possibly say over the phone that is so offensive that you would reject them before meeting them? Don’t most people know not to talk about gross skin/teeth problems, eat chicken wings, or flush the toilet while they’re on the phone, esp. if it’s with a potential shidduch? Maybe they only teach this to us kids in Canada

By: Hesh

Hesh — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 21:45:13 +0000

Leah that is my fear of moving downstate, I am moving down to Monsey and now I may actually have to go out with girls instead of rejecting them after a phone call.

I love “phone dates” it usually doesn’t go beyond that.

By: Leah

Leah — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 20:07:10 +0000

My stories are all just horribly bad dates, so I don’t know if that would qualify. Like the time I talked to some guy on the phone and he told me about how he likes going to clubs, but of course not strip clubs. Or the guy who, after we had clearly established the fact that we were not going to actually go out (being from “out of town” I get to discover this quickly from just phone calls) he ended the conversation asking me what I think about mixed seating at weddings. That was fun.

By: s(b.)

s(b.) — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 17:40:30 +0000

My past dating bloopers are, um, not compatible with a shomer negiah lifestyle. I should probably start making more of an effort to date again, anyway. They certainly happen easily enough! Mostly slapstick.

By: Rach

Rach — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 15:41:52 +0000

I think you totally would, but not from me, like i sid, sorry! My friends have some, but not me!

By: Hesh

Hesh — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 15:40:39 +0000

Hey if I put a call out for everyone to send in their dating bloopers/crazy dates do you think I would get anything? I would do a reader contributed compilation post. Just like I want to do a awkward BT moments post.

By: Rach

Rach — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 15:29:55 +0000

Haha, people have told me crazy dating stories, but i haven’t actually experienced any dating craziness myself yet. Like this one friend of mine told me that he was dating this girl, and they took a taxi and it was a pretty bumpy ride, and she opened the window and stuck her head out, saying she felt sick, he assumed she needed air, but when he got out of the taxi, there was vomit plasered all over the side of the car. She had needed more than just air. Then there are the stories where two couples go to the same place on a date… but they are pretty cliche. When i have stories of my own, im so IN on this bloopers thing though, just gotta get a video phone and ill be set