What do Frummies think of Thanksgiving?

by Heshy Fried on November 21, 2007 · 67 comments

I grew up in the kind of home that never had a thanksgiving meal for practical reasons, my father couldn’t cook, and my brother and I would rather go skiing then gorging ourselves on turkey and stuffing. So we used to go to my cousins Brooklyn for the meal. As seems to be the case with most issues, I never knew that it was so controversial within the Jewish community until I went away to yeshiva high school.

In my school like most folks with the yeshivish attitude, they used to say “what’s the point of a specific day for thanksgiving, when we thank God every day.” Then of course these same people to acknowledge some sort of sense of being American would go ahead and serve turkey and the trimmings on Friday night instead of the traditional Thursday. I later learned that this cop out was in fact of a practical issue, due to the fact that Friday night is a big meal anyway, why not combine the two?

I personally always found Thanksgiving to be flat out weird, it just doesn’t feel Jewish. I mean how many times do Jews have a big meal with everyone wearing sweaters and khakis, without making Kiddush, having lechem mishna or singing zemiros, to me it feels plain old goyishe. It almost feels too comfortable, sitting in your jeans and sweatshirt eating great food, with no shull obligations.

I always remember the folks who were vehemently anti those that wouldn’t have a meal on thanksgiving, they were always the gung-ho modern orthodox. They would sit at the meal and bash all the frummies for being so un-American.

Then of course you had the super frummies, charedim, Chassidim, whatever you may call them that had no idea it was thanksgiving, unless they worked at B and H Photo or some other retail establishment that relied on black Friday and holidays like thanksgiving to boost their sales. When asking these folks if they believed in, or had a thanksgiving meal, they would give you this quizzical look and say “Vut is dat?”

I can only imagine what other groups reactions are to the whole concept of thanksgiving. I mean how do Vegans go about the whole event, one would think that they stage protests and vigils in mourning for the Turkey genocide that takes place around this time every year. Or the anti-capitalists that believe thanksgiving was created by the evil multinational corporations as an excuse to unload all the fall fashions and products at discount prices and get everyone into the stores for “holiday sales.” Are there super liberal folks that think thanksgiving was a meal celebrated before we went and stole more land from the Indians and then killed and burnt their villages?

How do you celebrate thanksgiving? Any thoughts? Is it heretical according to anyone?

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1 TKillian November 21, 2007 at 5:01 PM

I’m sure that for someone whose family would eat Shabbos meals in your underwear “everyone wearing sweaters and khakis” shouldn’t feel so goyish.

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2 KW November 21, 2007 at 5:16 PM

I find what you write to be very interesting – my only concer: why is there a Jews for Jesus Google ad/link on your site?

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3 JoJo November 21, 2007 at 5:40 PM

KW // Nov 21, 2007 at 5:16 pm

I find what you write to be very interesting – my only concer: why is there a Jews for Jesus Google ad/link on your site?

Google ads are randomly generated based on the content of the site, they look for keywords and try to display appropriate ads to the target audience. It happens to be that JFJ pay for google ads and since the word “Jews” appears alot here, thats what googles system decides is the appropriate ad. Ironic, or intentional?
Who knows.

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4 iCE hORSE November 21, 2007 at 8:26 PM

I’m sick of ignorant frum jews that celebrate Thanksgiving. Its a well known fact that in the early 1800s, the police used to take off on Thanksgiving just for the sake of killing innocent Jews. There used to be all kinds of pogroms that would happen. Jewish blood was flowing in the streets! This even started up again in the sixties in northern Florida for about a year or 2 but Nixon put a stop to it. How can one celebrate on a day when our fellow yidden were mercilessly slaughtered????

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5 MordyS November 21, 2007 at 9:05 PM

What?! “well known fact” I never heard of that before in my life! Where’d you hear about that? You got any sources? And I couldn’t find anything remotely close on google…

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6 Cthulu November 21, 2007 at 9:24 PM

This blog is one of the funniest I have seen in a while. You should check your spelling and grammar somewhat before posting though. Oh and of course here is my plug: http://cthulu4prez.livejournal.com. This is my blog on med school and other miscellaneous goings-on in my life.

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7 flatbushgal November 21, 2007 at 11:02 PM

If you look at my school attendance records you’d see that every thanksgiving thursday since kindergarten I was absent. We have a thanksgiving dinner party in pennsylvania (a quaker tradition of ours…nah we have cousins there) my principal once had to rearrange my midterm schedule so I could go. You can imagine how that pleased him. but anyhow tomorrow will be my first thanksgiving not doing anything to celebrate since were not going. I was thinking I should tell my mom to buy a turkey- it just wouldn’t feel right not to have some ;) .

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8 lakewoodShmuck November 22, 2007 at 12:03 AM

everyone knows that thanksgiving only became UNyeshevish at the agooda recently. they only stopped serving turkey fress at the convention a few years ago.

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9 thenerve November 22, 2007 at 12:24 AM

I think the best part of thanks giving is the fact that the whole family gets together for once with out any Religous significance.Think about it every other time you get together with family you cant do milacha ,you spend half a day in shul.Plus I dont think most Jews “Celebrate the holiday b/c of the pilgrims ect. they just do it b/c its good times,good food ect.

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10 Adam in the Caribbean November 22, 2007 at 12:37 AM

My family never celebrates Thanksgiving. Although, I do love it for the four day weekend. Besides, Sukkot is the original harvest festival upon which the pilgrims most likely loosely based Thanksgiving. If we already celebrate the true harvest festival, why observe its secularized counterpart?

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11 ymerm November 22, 2007 at 2:03 AM

heshey for prez

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12 nakat November 22, 2007 at 2:20 AM

ice horse, i remember hearing about the thanksgiving pogroms of the sixties. I searched like crazy online to find an article about it. can u post a link?

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13 anonymous November 22, 2007 at 2:23 AM

The ice horse is full of shit!!!!! dont listen any of the crap that flies out of that faggots mouth!!!!

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14 Jacob is the New Ice Horse November 22, 2007 at 3:23 AM

LOL@ Anon.

We usually go to my grandfather’s house but unfortunately he’s in the hospital this year.

So I told Da Wife to whip up some turkey, gotta keep the fun coming.

I’ll post a report on it tomorrow night.

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15 iCE hORSE November 22, 2007 at 3:43 AM

Jacob, whats the matter with you? dont you have any sensitivity toward the suffering of your people?

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16 commonsensejew November 22, 2007 at 4:19 AM

Hesh-I come from a superfrum family and we rock the shabbos turkey-I am happy as long as i get some turkey in the end! by the way, the pilgrim/indian happy friendly food shtick stopped cutting ice with me when i learned that the by the NEXT thanksgiving, the settlers were already killing indians! We should probably celebrate Casino Inauguration week, when Indians got the right to own casinos. At least they still have those! It scares me that we think alike.

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17 30ANDawesome November 22, 2007 at 4:23 AM

Thanksgiving is awesome. Your blog is awesome. Come to think of it, life is awesome.
I think I love you.

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18 30ANDawesome November 22, 2007 at 4:27 AM

I really do. My Mom recommended your blog to me, and by golly she has good taste. By golly

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19 30ANDawesome November 22, 2007 at 4:59 AM

Sorry but I don’t have a penis, but if I did I would totally want you to gargle my delectable semen.

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20 30ANDawesome November 22, 2007 at 4:59 AM

L’Chaim!

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21 30ANDawesome November 22, 2007 at 5:08 AM

iCE hORSE ,
Yo mama so fat when you get on top of her your ears pop!

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22 iCE hORSE November 22, 2007 at 5:13 AM

Did you seriously use a “yo mama” diss on me from 1993. What kind of witless hack are you?

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23 anna nomys November 22, 2007 at 5:17 AM

Hesh, can you please ban the ice horse? He’s ruining your blog

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24 Revres 0x November 22, 2007 at 5:21 AM

Anna agreed! I don’t think I ever heard of amything more ridiculous than a thanksgiving pogrom!!!

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25 30ANDawesome November 22, 2007 at 5:23 AM

This “witless hack” was actually stooping to your level of immaturity. I was laughing at you, not with you. BTW, my discharge is way too good for a kid like you.

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26 isaac November 22, 2007 at 5:24 AM

ICE HORSE TRY GOOGLING THANTKSVING POGROM! NADA!

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27 30ANDawesome November 22, 2007 at 5:25 AM

I think its hillarious that you googled it!

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28 Hesh November 22, 2007 at 5:30 AM

Wow look what happens when I leave for a day of site seeing in Wash DC- 28 comments.

I think the ice horse is trying to incite his own pogrom or riot on my blog. Thats almost as nuts as the 9-11 commission for truth claims.

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29 iCE hORSE November 22, 2007 at 5:31 AM

Isaac, first of all learn how to fucking spell Thanksgiving and then buy a new keyboard with a working caps key. Second of all, anyone who took a basic Jewish history class knows the story of the original Thanksgiving pogroms that took place in the 1800s in America. I’m not completely sure about the the ones that Nixon put an end to. I think that was just a yeshivish urban legend. But the ones that took place in the 1800s were a well documented fact.

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30 iCE hORSE November 22, 2007 at 5:35 AM

30andawesome I apologize to you. You’re a greater human than I. And I will never be worthy enough to even floss with your pubic hair. I owe you a bracha. You should find a shidduch shortly and be matzliach in parnassah and be a groissah source of nachas to gantz klall yisroel!!

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31 30ANDawesome November 22, 2007 at 5:39 AM

Now you’re obviously trying to get in my pants. You’re bracha just put me over the edge and now I have to have you. I originally thought I wanted Hesh, but now I’m not so sure….

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32 isaac November 22, 2007 at 5:42 AM

Ice horse-
Your 4th grade rebbe must have done horrible things to you :(

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33 ari November 22, 2007 at 5:46 AM

Mazal Tov, Hesh!

I’m so impressed that your blog got popular enough for a flame war.

I’ll see u a the “librarian’s” aufruf.

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34 phigg November 22, 2007 at 5:54 AM

Anna and isaac calm down. Its commentors like iCE hORSE that keep the threads meaty and fun! Not everything in life and on the net has to be all nice and agreeable.

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35 30ANDawesome November 22, 2007 at 5:55 AM

I’m hoping you can get past the pogrom stuff and properly stuff my turkey in honor of Thanksgiving.

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36 Sheva-Liraz November 22, 2007 at 6:46 AM

Before I got religious I used to object to my family celebrating a holiday that resulted in WASPs murdering 1,000s of American Indians and the taking of their land. But now, I like to get a break from school to sit down with my family for some good cookin’. I agree with what Thenerve said: think the best part of thanks giving is the fact that the whole family gets together for once with out any Religous significance.Think about it every other time you get together with family you cant do milacha ,you spend half a day in shul.Plus I dont think most Jews “Celebrate the holiday b/c of the pilgrims ect. they just do it b/c its good times,good food ect.

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37 Devorah November 22, 2007 at 4:07 PM

How about we just do the important stuff of Thanksgiving, which is being grateful to live in a country where frum Jews never had it so good (including Eretz Yisroel, it seems) In most of Europe these days they’re afraid to walk in the street with a yarmulke — in 2007! — and our biggest problem here is deciding which restaurant has the best sushi and which community has the best singles scene. The Lubavitcher Rebbe called this a “medina shel chessed” for a reason, rabboisai. Give thanks! :)

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38 happy November 22, 2007 at 5:01 PM

devorah, i agree!

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39 heshman November 22, 2007 at 5:12 PM

The very offensive Ice Horse comments have been deleted and I apologize for not doing it sooner, but I am on vacation and not always at the comp.

Mr. Ice Horse please respect the other commenters and try and keep your comments to a PG13 level

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40 iCE hORSE November 22, 2007 at 5:36 PM

30andawesome, I can properly stuff your turkey, but you’re going to have to fucking ask nicer than that. But not if y0u’re wearing pants. Homey don’t play that game.

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41 iCE hORSE November 22, 2007 at 8:40 PM

hesh, freedom of speech or die

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42 deena November 22, 2007 at 8:47 PM

If I see another ICE HORSE comment on here I’m boycotting this blog!

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43 shirit November 22, 2007 at 8:47 PM

deena, I’m with you. This blog is funny, but enough is enough with this horse made from ice

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44 chaya November 22, 2007 at 8:49 PM

shirit and deena, you are truly both a bunch of clitless cunts. develop a sense of humour

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45 isaac November 22, 2007 at 8:51 PM

I tried googling clitless cunt and nothing came up. I think that every cunt has a clit and a cunt without a clit cannot possibly exist. It sounbds like another silly myth just like this thanksgiving pogrom icehorse propoganda

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46 isaac November 22, 2007 at 8:54 PM

what the hell is an ice horse anyways?

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47 ymerm November 22, 2007 at 9:09 PM

hesh please clean this up, kosher only

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48 clb November 22, 2007 at 10:19 PM

Yeh, you really gotta delete that last post from ice horse, It seems like he really has no life, if he took all that time to post all that….but thanks now I feel more educated, didnt know what half those words actually meant!

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49 clb November 22, 2007 at 10:21 PM

This is suppose to be some sort of “Jewish” site…He’s gotta respect that!

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50 bad4shidduchim November 22, 2007 at 10:28 PM

We always celebrate Thanksgiving as an excuse to get together, eat alot, talk, and then fall asleep on the couch… It’s nice to have a “holiday” where you can drive to a meal.
Oh, and I’m a frummie.

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51 Devorah November 23, 2007 at 12:39 AM

Isn’t it possible to just block any vulgar comments before they go up, if you respect the community of decent people who enjoy real satire (go ahead an parse that), not filthy language trying (unsuccessfully) to hide a lack of intelligence? lots of sites screen comments before they go up. what if a neo-nazi was commenting? i don’t mind being screened first, and i’m sure none of your normal regular readers would either (comment if i’m wrong, guys). i just can’t recommend this site in good conscience to friends if you’re going to let such “comments” on.

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52 Jacob is the New Ice Horse November 23, 2007 at 12:42 AM

Clitless Cunt: When the Arabs or Africans preform female bris mila on that holy place ;)

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53 30ANDawesome November 23, 2007 at 12:43 AM

I would be highly impressed if you could write an interesting story utilizing all of those new vocabulary words. I would attempt it but I don’t have that much time on my hands.
PS: Homey don’t play with chicks in pants or chicks who where the pants or what ?!?
In total agreement with Chaya’s comment above.

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54 Jacob is the New Ice Horse November 23, 2007 at 12:43 AM

I’m starting a new blog:

http://www.Icehorse.blogspot.com

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55 Jacob is the New Ice Horse November 23, 2007 at 12:44 AM

O crap, its already taken by some dude!

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56 mazeartist November 23, 2007 at 2:02 AM

Hesh-
Your dad took you skiing on Thanksgiving? My dad took me skiing on Super Bowl-
1. My family wasn’t into football.
2. All the Americans were home, so the whole mountain was ours for the day.

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57 miriam November 24, 2007 at 11:46 PM

Heshy,

TAG! you’re it! please visit my blog for details. Thanks.

(p.s. good luck w/everything!)

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58 Yochanan November 25, 2007 at 12:35 AM

As for sweaters and khakis, I dress down during Sukkot. I’ve seen pictures of more political Native Americans wearing shirts that said things like: “Thanks for giving us smallpox and raping our women.”

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59 Jacob is the New Ice Horse November 25, 2007 at 1:25 AM
60 lion of zion November 25, 2007 at 9:05 PM

my take on jews and thanksgiving:
http://agmk.blogspot.com/2007/11/thanksgiving-day-in-jewish-practice.html#links

and people, our contemporary thanksgiving was established by lincoln. it has nothing to do with indians.

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61 heshman November 26, 2007 at 6:15 PM

Thanks for the link Ari

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62 dofan akuma November 27, 2007 at 6:42 PM

if i remember correctly there are three tshuvos from R’ Moshe on whether one should celebrate Thanksgiving.
i happen to not like turkey (but i do like that cranberry stuff). i also don’t like doing the same arbitrary thing everyone else is doing. oh, also, i’m not thankful.

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63 Hesh November 28, 2007 at 1:14 AM

Dofan, would you be able to bring us the teshuvas so we can discuss. Aren’t there a whole bunch of folks who dont even eat turkey since it may not be kosher.

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64 Lion of Zion November 28, 2007 at 5:10 AM

rav moshe’s 4 teshuvot are discussed at http://www.tfdixie.com/special/thanksg.htm#A04

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65 heshman November 28, 2007 at 12:28 PM

Thank you Ari

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66 Phil August 7, 2008 at 9:00 PM

It was my first year in the US, here in Canada thanksgiving is just anither excuse not to go to work, people just don’t celebrate like you Americans. I remember being invited to a family in the Albany area for Friday night that happened to be Thanksgiving. They made such a ritual out of turkey and cranberry sauce, I was just wondering when the beer would come. Unfortunately it never did, then I figured out the the US also had stricter underage drinking laws.

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67 Byron August 22, 2008 at 3:03 PM

Hail to the Jews man

out of the Jews came a real cool Guy

Jesus

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