Comments on: Yet another frumster rant

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frumbutwithit — Sun, 13 May 2007 02:09:43 +0000

I also think that since no one ever emails me I figure everyone else deals with the same issue- and if you get to many- just don’t read them until you have time to answer. I know its hard but peoples feelings are at stake.

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rebelwithacause — Sat, 12 May 2007 22:08:10 +0000

Gosh I have so much to say about Frumster *rollseyes* but I’ll keep it on the topic.
I totally agree with Shimson that Frumster is an extension of the mental ward in Bellevue. I have also seen this attitude of “now I’ll suddenly stop writing to you” or “I won’t answer your mail and won’t tell you why”. I got fed up with the attitude on Frumster and deleted my profile. My time is very precious and I thought the time I invested in Frumster was not worth it, cause like Frumwithit was harassed, I was being harassed by men who were as old as to my dad and then also by some borderline personalities who sent me emails like,” how can you be a modern orthodox? The real way to be religious is this way or that way?You should not wear pants. blah,blah,blah”

I have many hobbies including playing the piano, rock climbing and belly dancing. I had these hobbies up for a while in profile in Frumster but again I got harassed by some “so called hard core frummies” telling me these hobbies are not tzninus. Well if you are climbing or dancing where are there are no males, I think it’s tzinius. Anyways I got so fed up with these borderline types bothering me online.

Another annoying thing was the mentioning of money every time I had a conversation with a guy from Frumster. I have working in Investment Banking and now I work for a Hedge Fund and I find it highly retarded to ask me if I am interested in money. I am interested in money and that is my own money, cause I work hard make my own cash. I invest my money, use it and enjoy it. Not all women are stupid golddiggers looking for a goldmine.

I think people like me and frumwithit get annoyed with people who don’t answer e-mails cause we come from a breed of individuals who respect others enough to send a proper response. These people who don’t write back, they are not sure of what they want from themselves and others.

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frumbutwithit — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:21:18 +0000

Dude money is no option for me because I have none. Instead I tend to date people of similar interests- because if you are a tree hugging outdoorsy type you tend to abhor material and want to experience life by doing things not accumulating them.

Agreed the women on frumster tend to say they have no personality.

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Shimshon — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 07:31:17 +0000

Frumster is like an online extension of the mental ward at bellevue. Its a shame because the truth is, the online world is great to meet people but sadly, people don’t appreciate it so they sign onto frumster when they are jealous that their friends are getting married and they are still there and decide its time to find someone. Then, they get comfortable again and sit back and change moods again and replying to emails becomes such a big chore. An email reply might break a nail, a princess cannot have that:)
Either way, it seems a lot of people on there are from distant galaxies far far off. Even some potheads there. Its sad, the community is so anti social and those who actually put themselves out there to try to meet people, there are so much people to weed through to find someone that is normal. what is it about that site that attracts the insane people.
Also, why is it that so many Jewish girls seem to have no personality unless they see money flash before their eyes. very pathetic.

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frumbutwithit — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 02:12:21 +0000

Ahuva the problem is that I know folks are sitting at their frumster profiles the same amount of time that teenage girls sit at their facebook profiles. How long does it really take to get out the quick no I am not interested. Did it really take you two weeks to decide. I udnerstand where you are coming from- I just decide not to read the message in that case- I look at the profile and pretend that I dont have a premium account.

You know exactly what a first message says- so why read the thing and then not reply at all. Do you know how many messages I have sent- noticed the girl read the message but thy never answered. This pisses me off royally.

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notsofrummie — Wed, 18 Apr 2007 15:28:59 +0000

From my usage of frumster, although i never signed up, much more of a browser. Alot of people seeking mates have a list requirements of what they are looking for. Many say they are looking for 10 diff things, and all they got is the bull shit you mentioned “love, caring, passionate etc”. Their are more interested in narrowing this search with out really selling themselves.

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Ahuva — Wed, 18 Apr 2007 12:41:24 +0000

I guess what I was trying to say was that there are many people who fall across “types.” One side of a person is in the “patient intellectual” another is in the “adventurous” and maybe they also have a regular after-shabbos D&D game, like to garden and have a secret desire to learn how to play the glass armonica.

Dating websites encourage you to craft your profile so that you meet the kind of people you think you’re going to be interested in. A person who likes to dress up and go to the opera may not envision themselves with a person who ALSO likes hiding out in the woods for a few days.

On another thought… Sometimes people take a long time to figure out what they want to say and craft a reply. I know I’ve been guilty of reading and e-mail and profile when I have a few quick seconds to jump online– and then taking forever to figure out whether or not I am interested in him.

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frumbutwithit — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 16:43:21 +0000

Thank you!

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frombrooklyn — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 16:08:54 +0000

Another great post