I have a date tomorrow night, along with having a date comes the pre-date jitters as I call them. I feel as if everyone gets them, and especially when the girl sounds promising. My pre-date jitters are at the peak since I have yet to call the girl yet, when I do it I know I will sit on my couch, lump in my throat, fondling that small piece of ripped out notebook paper with her name and number on it, I will struggle to get past that awkward hello is this ______ and then I will move into the conversation, since the date is pretty much set for tomorrow I don’t have to have that whole awkward phone conversation. Instead I get to save all my date material for the actual date. Dates are mind of like stand up comedy routines, run out of material and you get heckled and shot down. Not all dates have to consist of talking about the same old crappy family and hashkafa stuff along with traditional dating stuff. It can be fun and spontaneous, but this only happens with a good routine planned out.
Normally I don’t have the pre-date jitters but a Google search of tomorrow nights courting proved to be very promising, with her name mentioned on several blog postings by 2 different bloggers. Both of them had to do with events that she was at and the person writing stating that this person is very cool. Ok fine that’s good, but looks, that thing everyone won’t talk about, even me I don’t ask for hotness, I just ask for in shape. Its my roundabout way, will they be able to walk 15 miles in a day without dying? This is important to me. After Google the next stop for any date stalker is Facebook, score, her Facebook picture though a 1 inch mostly upper body and face photo revealed more promising results, her bone structure of her face revealed that she would be skinny and fit, her smile was worth a million bucks and all her teeth were there and they were white. The photo was also in black and white another intriguing thing. Unfortunately I didn’t get to see her profile, but if the date goes well, then you can do that. Facebooking someone is super creepy and stalkerish, but it does reveal plenty about them. Employers as well as schools do it to almost all potential applicants and soon I think yeshivas will do it too. She has no Myspce account but I was satisfied with the results.
That is why I have those jitters, she seems interesting enough to wonder where to go or what to do. I don’t live in NY so I have idea what to do. I usually just walk around a park or go to Starbucks, lame dates that foster conversation. I am a talker after all, if the date is bad I tell them I can just entertain myself by talking to myself simple as that.
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Hey, good luck with the date! Exciting.
How did you meet/get introduced to the girl?
what happends if you were already set up with a date and agreed to go out and then decide to check out to see if shes on facebook and have second thoughts about going out with her. either of her pics and hobbies or even her friends, one decides not to pursue it. you pretty much gotta suck it up, eh? i kinda shot down once a girl after looking her up and decided shes not for me. guess that was pretty shallow of me to knock down a girl because of facebook profile. gotta check out her myspace acct next time then come up with my decision. lol.. or alteast the girl/guy should try and put a decent pic of themselves with a decent prof. they never know whos gonna be checking it out..
It’s interesting to see this from the other side. Don’t forget that skinny does not mean fit. If you want to know if she can keep up on a hike with you, pick a date where there will be lots of walking. I’m thin, but I couldn’t walk 15 miles without being beyond footsore the next day. Best of luck with your date!
Exactly Ahuva, I ask for fit because I dont want some anorexic little jap who only walks when there are sales at the mall and even then she complains. Its just a roundabout way of making sure they are active. Lazyness makes me sick.
“what happends if you were already set up with a date and agreed to go out and then decide to check out to see if shes on facebook and have second thoughts about going out with her. either of her pics and hobbies or even her friends, one decides not to pursue it. you pretty much gotta suck it up, eh?”
Nah I would not refuse a girl I laready agreed to go out with, but curiosity killed the cat. Furthermore unless you riend her on facebook which is seen as being stalker you cannot see her profile only her pictures and friends. Why would someone decide not to go out with a girl based on her friends.
One thing that has saved me from the pre-date jitters is that I know people love to talk about themselves. So, I usually ask them what they do for a living or some sort of lead in and then I listen.
My rabbi told me a story one night, with all the acting that went along with it, of his first date with his wife.
He asked her on the phone what she wanted to do and she said, “How about just going for a walk?”
Now, he was in Yeshiva and was spending 16 hours a day pouring over texts, getting up once in a while, still bent over and shuffling over to the book shelves or the coffee pot and then shuffling back over to the table.
He went to pick her up, drove to where she wanted to walk and they got out. She took off. He shuffled along beside her, then behind her and when she was a mile ahead of him he finally sent a carrier pigeon to let her know he wanted to sit on a bench for a bit.
The story was hilarious. So, be careful what you ask a girl when you go out on a date. He still shuffles when he walks and he is only 30. And she can still out walk him. So can their three little children!